Already Over the Christmas Presents Edition
Care and Feeding | Slate's parenting show
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4.4 • 1K Ratings
🗓️ 16 January 2020
⏱️ 47 minutes
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Summary
On this week’s episode: Dan and Jamilah are joined by Care and Feeding columnist Nicole Cliffe. They answer a question from a mom whose brother’s suicide attempt is causing her to reevaluate her son’s relationship with his uncle. He’s recovering, but can she trust him to look after her eight year old? They also answer a question from a father whose kid regrets choosing an iPad over a Switch. Should he just break down and buy the Switch? And how can he teach his son that getting the next shiny thing doesn’t necessarily make you happy? For Slate Plus, special guest and Slate staff writer Ruth Graham discusses her parenting dilemma that included a highly anticipated trip and... barf? Sign up for Slate Plus here.
Recommendations:
Dan recommends two Oscar nominations for your tweens and teens: Knives Out and Parasite. Jamilah tossed in the Oscar-nominated short, Hair Love. Many art-house theaters screen the Oscar nominated shorts; so go see them in person.
Jamilah recommends Trader Joe’s cauliflower products. Cauliflower au gratin, great! Cauliflower tot casserole, delicious! Plus, you don’t really have to cook.
Nicole recommends Contigo water bottles for kids, which comes in blue and orange.
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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.
Hosts
Jamilah Lemieux is a writer, cultural critic, and communications strategist based in California.
Dan Kois is an editor and writer at Slate. He’s the author of How to Be a Family and the co-author of The World Only Spins Forward.
Nicole Cliffe lives with her husband and three children in Sandy, Utah. She is the co-founder of the Toast and has written for the Guardian, Christianity Today, New York, and the Morning News.
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | The following podcast contains explicit language. |
| 0:05.8 | Welcome to Mom and Dad are Fighting, Slate's Parenting Podcast for Thursday, January 16th, the Already Over the Christmas Presence Edition. |
| 0:14.0 | I'm Dan Coise. I'm a writer at Slate. I'm the author of The Book How to Be a Family. |
| 0:18.4 | And I'm the dad of Lyra, who's 14, and Harper, who's 12, |
| 0:22.3 | we live in Arlington, Virginia. I'm Jimmy Lillamue. I'm a writer, a contributor to Slate's |
| 0:27.7 | care and feeding parenting column, and mom to Naima, who is six, and we live in Los Angeles, |
| 0:32.8 | California. I'm Nicole Cliff. I am an internet personality, and I write for Slate's Karen Feeding column. I have an eight-year-old. I'm Nicole Cliff. I am an internet personality, and I write for a Slate's care and feeding column. I have an eight-year-old Amelia, a five-year-old James, and a two-and-a-half-year-old Loretta, and we live in Utah. Hello, Nicole. We're so happy to see you here. We have a real care and feeding power duo. Oh, we're going to crush it. Today on the show, we have a question from a mom whose brother's attempted suicide is causing her to reevaluate her son's relationship with his uncle. |
| 1:01.7 | Uncle's recovering because she trusts him to look after her eight-year-old. |
| 1:05.6 | We also have a question from a dad whose son is already asking for new toys after Christmas. |
| 1:10.6 | Plus, triumphs and fails and |
| 1:12.5 | recommendations. Let's start with some triumphs and or fails. Jamila, what do you have for us |
| 1:18.2 | this week? So I have like a triumph-ish. I'm not sure exactly where to file it, but I'm going to go |
| 1:26.5 | with triumph. |
| 1:34.3 | My daughter has become somewhat, I don't know if I want to say, condescending, but, |
| 1:38.8 | and we've talked about her passive aggression, which she inherited from me, which I inherited from my mom, not too long ago. |
| 1:41.3 | But last night, there was some way in which I caused her some sort of minor inconvenience, right? |
| 1:47.9 | And so I, you know, I apologize. |
| 1:50.0 | And so I'm sorry, Naima, I didn't mean to do that. |
| 1:51.8 | And she says, oh, it's okay. |
| 1:53.7 | I know you were just doing your best. |
| 1:56.5 | Oh, God. |
| 1:59.0 | She's been saying things like this to be quite a bit. |
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