Alison Armstrong | What Women Have Never Known About Men (Until Now)

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Josh Trent

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🗓️ 8 July 2025

⏱️ 118 minutes

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Summary

Is your unconscious behavior quietly ruining your relationship and starving it of true intimacy?

Josh Trent welcomes Alison Armstrong, Relationship Expert, to the Wellness + Wisdom Podcast, episode 756, to teach the crucial skill of listening without interruption, and why women’s “frog farming” tactics push men back into defensive roles. We explore the real differences between men and women, the hidden code of complementary strengths, and how to co-create a heaven on Earth by shifting from judgment to love.

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In This Episode, Alison Armstrong Uncovers:

[02:00] The Stages of Men's Evolution

Don’t Understand About Men + How To Get The Love You Want
The stages of men's evolution.
How women become frog farmers and turn princes into frogs.
Why men become different after a few months into a relationship.
How women bring out the worst in men through leading with their sexuality.

Resources:

[05:35] Becoming a King

Why it feels stressful for Josh to establish a kingdom.
How paiges pursue what's exciting and worth doing.
Why parents misunderstand what their children are meant to do.
How princes go through three stages.
Why the tunnel is the transition from prince to king.

Resources:

The Rookie (2002)

[12:10] The Purpose of Noble Forgiveness

How men can go through multiple phases of the tunnel.
Why men who get stuck in anger never leave the tunnel.
Powerlessness, dread, and shame are the worst feelings humans can experience.
Why only honorable men feel shame.
How shame disconnects us from our own spirit.
Why women can't listen to men because they feel their hurt and want to take it away.
Men leave when they believe their partner or children will be better off without them.
How we can forgive ourselves.

[23:40] Why Men Get Stuck in The Tunnel Stage

Why many men get stuck in the third part of the tunnel for multiple years.
How to step out of the tunnel and become a new king.
Why single-focus brings men peace.
How a focused man is in a state of meditation.

[28:55] What Is An Elder

Why being an elder is a state change.
How elders offer things to think about instead of giving advice.
Why elders can struggle with a lack of ambition.
Why kings want to provide from overflow.

[33:50] Listening without Interruption

Why it's important not to interrupt a man when he's speaking.
How women speaking over each other creates connection.
Why men seek safety through productivity.
How men can become depressed by realizing the end of their productive work.
Why true connection is a connection to the eternal.
How we're thinking of questions and our knowledge while we're listening to someone speaking.
Why everything is better together.

[38:20] Why Women Interrupt Men

Why awareness and implementation create a change in our behavior.
How picture listening can help us only interrupt when we don't understand what the other person is saying.
Why we have six different compulsions that we spend time, money, and energy on.
How men want to build a legacy.

[46:30] How to Embody Your Highest Values

How our response to a threat is embodied.
Why embodying our highest values requires our needs to be met.
How women start pretending when they're afraid to lose their safety.
Why we always project our needs onto others.

[52:50] Healing The World

Why Alison's goal was to impact 100,000 people.
How her work got spread all over the world.
How The Queen's Code was accessible to everyone to download.

[57:15] The Mission to Help Children

Why Alison wanted to end hunger and homelessness when she was younger.
How not all children have a name.
What led her on a journey to helping people with their relationships.
Why food, clothing, and housing are the basics everyone should have access to.

[01:02:35] All Fear Is Fear of Death

Why all fear is linked to the fear of death.
How parents are scared of making mistakes.
Why all children want to be adored by their parents.
How protection and providing are connected.
Why we protect our children from external and internal threats.
How we want to protect our children from our character flaws.
Why all of us have a sequence of how we react to opportunities and threats.
How men naturally want to provide.

[01:12:40] From Grief to Love

How Alison's husband passed suddenly.
Why she could feel his freedom when he left his body.
How she's still grieving her husband.
Why her late husband picked Alison's new boyfriend.
How grief can be an aphrodisiac.
Why introverts are not shy.

[01:23:20] The King's Code

Why our being is eternal.
Why Alison is a channel for books.
How the book characters are real people who are shown to Alison by a higher consciousness.

Resources:

Keys to the Kingdom by Alison Armstrong

[01:31:10] Why Women Emasculate Men

How Alison found out she was a frog farmer.
How boys, guys, and men are all very different.
Why Alison started teaching women how to stop emasculating men.
How men become caring when women don't emasculate them.
Why women shouldn't try getting men to love them.

[01:37:00] The Differences Between Men + Women

How our body and brain are formed in utero.
The difference that estrogen and testosterone create.
Why men are naturally stronger than women.
How women were taught they were not enough.
Why men are looking for complementary strength in women.
How men and women are made for each other.
Why women seek safety through connection.

[01:49:10] Creating Heaven on Earth

How heaven on Earth is no different than what we have right now but the context shifts to love.
Why evil is God's creation.
How our human senses might be lying to us.
Why we need to question our perceptions.

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Power Quotes From Alison Armstrong

"We get disconnected when we think we're a version of each other. That's why we think we don't have to ask each other, what do you need? And we think we don't have to say what we need." — Alison Armstrong

""As long as I take men's power, I will never know my own. So after I gave up emasculating men, men became proactively caring for me, looking out for me, taking care of me, and warning me against bad people." — Alison Armstrong

"You can tell the question that people have in their head by what they interrupt you with. They interrupt with something that their own mind answered that compelled them. If you're speaking, you're mostly provoking thought, you're not being heard." — Alison Armstrong

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About Alison Armstrong

Alison Armstrong | Top Secrets Women Have Never Known About Men Alison Armstrong is a leading expert on relationship dynamics and interpersonal communication, best known for helping women decode male behavior and build deeper partnerships.

As founder and CEO of PAX Programs, she created flagship workshops like Celebrating Men and The Queen’s Code, reaching tens of thousands worldwide.

Her bestselling book, Making Sense of Men, distills decades of insight into a practical guide for lasting love and understanding. A sought-after speaker and trainer, Armstrong continues to empower individuals and organizations with transformative programs and online courses.

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0:00.0	When you lead with sexuality, you're going to bring out the worst in men.
0:04.0	Having no idea that when we do that, we are appealing to the most primitive of primitive instincts.
0:12.0	Procreate.
0:14.0	Alison Armstrong is an expert on understanding men and is the best-selling author of the Queen's Code.
0:20.0	Why is it that men are wonderful in the beginning?
0:22.7	And then within a few weeks or a few months, they turn into sports watching pizza eating, beer belching couch, slugs.
0:30.4	What if men are responding to women?
0:33.6	One of the most important thing for women to do is, if we did that, oh my gosh, could change everything.
0:46.7	Women, what if I told you that there's a secret about men that you have never been told?
0:52.2	Not by your mom, not by school, definitely not by your girlfriends.
0:56.7	And for the men, what if I told you that you could finally understand all the parts of yourself
1:01.8	that have been so painful that you've grappled with in becoming a king? Would you listen?
1:07.4	In this episode, I sit down with the one and only Alison Armstrong. For over 30 years,
1:12.1	she's been going the deepest of the deep into male, female dynamics, how men and women
1:16.9	operate in ways they don't even know that they don't know is there, and also how men and women
1:21.4	can come together and love each other, how we can put down the swords and open up curiosity
1:26.1	in our hearts so we can make the world a better
1:28.3	place, not just for ourselves, but for children. Allison is a globally published author. She has written
1:34.3	books that have changed more lives than I believe almost anyone on this subject. For all the men
1:39.7	who are wanting and desiring to be a king, this episode is for you, for all the women that want
1:45.2	to know the secrets about men that honestly, we don't even really know sometimes about
1:48.9	ourselves, this episode will change your life and your relational dynamics. This conversation
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