Agatha & The Goal Post Moving Abuser | Coercive Control & Narcissistic Abuse

Narcissist Apocalypse: Patterns of Abuse

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Self-improvement, Education, Society & Culture, Relationships

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🗓️ 30 September 2024

⏱️ 77 minutes

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In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Agatha shares her journey of dealing with a narcissistic ex-husband, detailing their 15-year marriage marked by emotional and psychological abuse. Agatha began her like as a people pleaser in training, which carried into her adult life. Agatha recounts how her ex's possessiveness and control escalated over time, leading to isolation and financial abuse. It's a story of moving goal posts, rage, enmeshment, sexual abuse, financial abuse, double standards, entitlement, belittling, undercutting, putdowns, gaslighting, control disguised as love, isolation, perfect pictures, zero responsibility, zero accountability, shame, the fog, kernels of truth, people pleasing, divorce, self love, custody, and the healing process. *** CONTENT WARNING - This episode discusses sexual abuse. *** If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at [email protected] To help out our podcast, please fill out our listener survey, click here. PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS: Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | Click Here The Covert Narcissism Podcast | Click Here Something Was Wrong | Click Here When Dating Hurts Podcast | Click Here If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.). To reach them, click here. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/ Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:30.2	On this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, we talk with an abuse survivor named Agatha,
0:36.6	and Agatha was married to a goalpost-moving abuser.
0:40.5	It's a story of people-pleasing, control disguised as love, family en. I am Brandon Chadwick. And with me today, we have Agatha. How are you?
1:18.4	I'm good. Thank you very much for having me.
1:20.5	Well, thank you for being here today. And if you want to be a guest like Agatha is today,
1:26.5	please do go to our website at Narcissistapocalypse.com and click on the guest form button at the top of the page.
1:32.2	There you can read all of our instructions and please read them all and either send us an email at Narcissist Apocalypse at gmail.com or fill out the guest form and press the submit button.
1:41.5	And please do send it in the format that we ask for.
1:44.9	And there is a content warning for today's survivor story for today's episode as we do discuss
1:49.8	sexual abuse in this episode. So that is your content warning for today. And today you're going to hear
1:55.4	Agatha's story and Agatha was married to a controlling abuser and this is a frog in the boiling pot type of story.
2:03.8	And once you're in a relationship for a while, it's too late and you are just surviving as best you can.
2:09.1	So a big thank you to Agatha for being here.
2:11.8	And now I'm going to get out of my way and your way.
2:14.5	Agatha, the floor is now yours.
2:18.9	I had, so starting way back in my childhood, I've had a very strange relationship with my mother,
2:26.5	and I realize with perspective now, she trained me very well to be a people pleaser.
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