Welcome to the Wally show aftercast all the stuff we didn't get to during the course of the show today

Before we get to Israel and Hamas and some of that stuff because all that was breaking while I was on vacation

And I was chomping at the bit and I did some deep dives of

Research into this and I was I've one of the first things I asked Betty

Because I know Betty tries to stay out of a lot of the heavy news

Yes, and I'm like did you watch this and where you in on it? And you said yes, right?

Yeah, okay, so we'll talk about that in a minute

Right now, I want to go back to something we finished our last break of the podcast if you've already heard the show

You'll hear that

But we're talking about validation and when you get mad about something in somebody who you love

Like seems to take the other side of the other person when they're just trying to provide the

Playing devil's advocate or the another viewpoint and it really sends you through the roof when he says you

He means him me absolutely or people that are wired like me like turns out Gavin has a friend

Yeah, this friend of his got into a fistfight at a basketball game and he wanted his his wife to be like

Oh, how dare them are you okay honey? Yeah, but instead she was like you're not playing basketball anymore

But here's what I would like to preface yeah, so you know y'all get mad when your wives are like

I don't want you to fix it. I just want you to listen. Yes, that is the very same thing

So you might get frustrated because you're like well, don't you want to get it fixed? No, she just wants to be validated

She wants you to listen and hear

Her reasoning as to why something is bothering her if don't try to fix it

You're trying to fix it and you don't want that you want to be validated if you're so good at this as a woman

Like shouldn't you know what like not like like

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