Afraid of staying and afraid of leaving
Love and Abuse
Paul Colaianni
4.6 • 816 Ratings
🗓️ 3 November 2021
⏱️ 20 minutes
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Summary
When you've had enough and you can't take anymore, but you stay and take more, you end up in an endless cycle of love and abuse. If you're afraid to stay because things are bad, but also afraid to leave because you don't know any other way to live your life, it's time to get real clear on what you really want.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to Love and Abuse, the show about helping you identify poisonous communication and toxic behavior. |
| 0:07.4 | You deserve to be treated with respect and kindness. |
| 0:10.9 | That's why it's important that you learn to pinpoint manipulative and controlling behavior |
| 0:15.1 | so that you keep your power and your sanity. |
| 0:18.6 | I'm your host, Paul Koliani. |
| 0:30.8 | Thank you. power and your sanity. I'm your host, Paul Koliani. Hello, welcome to the show. Welcome to love and abuse. Good to have you here. |
| 0:35.2 | Just so you know, all the information on this show is meant for |
| 0:37.8 | educational purposes only. Always seek a professional for your mental health and well-being, |
| 0:42.9 | and always pick your battles wisely. Let me read you an email from someone who listened to an |
| 0:49.8 | episode of my show and has a question on it. She said, I just listened to episode 62 twice. |
| 0:56.3 | And I'm going to tell you what 62 is that is called understanding the addict in the |
| 1:02.4 | manipulative relationship. She says, I'm dealing with a spouse with addiction who also |
| 1:07.8 | manipulates. All your words ring true as it now makes better sense to me that the addiction |
| 1:13.3 | is more important than me and isn't about me. He's using me to fuel his addiction, and I've started to say |
| 1:23.0 | no. The problem is he's manipulating me to get what he wants by being emotionally abusive toward me. |
| 1:30.0 | I don't know how to confront him. |
| 1:31.8 | He gets angry and twists my words. |
| 1:34.1 | He takes things from my past and uses those things against me to hurt me and to get me to do what he wants. |
| 1:41.7 | It always ends with me apologizing to the end of the argument. He doesn't |
| 1:47.8 | want help for his addiction, nor will he admit he has an issue. Is my only option to leave? |
| 1:55.6 | I've been married over two decades. Thank you for your insight. It's always appreciated. |
| 2:04.2 | Okay, thanks so much for sharing that. |
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