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Against Everyone with Conner Habib

AEWCH 285: HOW TO LIVE IN 2025: CONNECT with DEAN SPADE

Against Everyone with Conner Habib

Against Everyone With Conner Habib

Spirituality, Religion & Spirituality

4.8679 Ratings

🗓️ 22 January 2025

⏱️ 93 minutes

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Summary

This is the third in a series of episodes on HOW TO LIVE IN 2025, focusing on the thoughts, feelings, and actions we need to thrive, develop, create, and resist. At the end of each of these episodes, I’ll offer an exercise - a thought exercise, spiritual exercise, or practical exercise - that brings an experiential dimension to what I and the shows guests talk about.

This episode’s theme is CONNECT
And my guest is organizer, activist, and writer, DEAN SPADE

Our disconnection from each other is the negative space that power thrives in. It's a void that threatens to overtake us with its heavy unfeeling emptiness.

Connection is the remedy, but more than that: it's the great meaning we all seek.

The connections we form with each other can create networks of mutual aid, solidarity, safety, love, pleasure, and happy engagement with the challenges of our time.

Dean's new book, Love in a F*cked-Up World: How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell Together offers a powerful look at connection. And it gives everything its title promises: a wealth of practical steps you can take to learn how to live well in this world through what you learn in relationship with others.

It’s a book about relationships that takes nothing for granted from the dominant narratives that rule our lives.

Rather than trying to fit society as it is, the book asks us what it would look like if our relationships were built out of our desires, including our desire to create a better word through better relationships.

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0:00.0

Hello, friends. This is Against Everyone with Connor Habib.

0:05.3

Our disconnection from each other is like a negative space that power thrives in and with.

0:12.8

A void that threatens to overtake us with its heavy, unfeeling emptiness.

0:18.3

Connection is the remedy.

0:20.8

The connections that we make with each other form

0:24.1

networks of mutual aid, solidarity, safety, love, pleasure, romantic relationship, happy engagement

0:31.0

with the challenges of our time, and more. We're used to hearing about how certain forms

0:36.5

of connection are continually barred,

0:39.0

obscured, or shattered through racism, homophobia, transphobia, sexism, you know, all the hits.

0:46.3

But there are so many ways in which our difficulty in finding each other amplifies that terrible

0:51.3

power that we find ourselves facing down that are not those big,

0:57.3

obvious, or at least much talked about ones.

1:00.2

From disconnection from world events through the passive spectacle of the internet and social

1:05.4

media, to the alienation we feel when we're forced to make a living, to the very simple reality that

1:12.9

many of us don't know who our neighbors are or how we would talk to them if we needed to.

1:19.4

As 2025 begins, it feels like we're heading into uncharted territory, an unilluminated path

1:25.4

which cannot be navigated, usually the cultural, political, and economic

1:29.8

tools and structures we're used to.

1:32.7

This is the third episode in a series of episodes on how to live in 2025.

1:38.6

Focusing on the thoughts, feelings, and actions, we need to thrive, develop, create, and resist.

1:45.2

On these episodes, I've been exploring what tools can work for us as individuals and at the same time offer to the rest of the

1:50.5

world. And at the end of each of these episodes, I'm offering an exercise, a thought exercise,

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