Adult Friendships: How to Start, Nurture, and When to Let Go with Dr. Joy Berkheimer

Self-Helpless

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Comedy, Science, Alternative Health, Health & Fitness, Education

4.8 • 3K Ratings

🗓️ 21 November 2025

⏱️ 51 minutes

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Delanie Fischer chats with licensed therapist and relationship specialist, Dr. Joy Berkheimer, about the challenges and rewards of adult friendships. Dr. Joy shares practical strategies for finding new friends as an adult, building trust, navigating conflict, and knowing when it’s time to let a friendship go — all while honoring your own capacity, interests, and boundaries. Discussed in this episode: Find Your Purpose, Find Your People Clarify Desire & Capacity: Close Friend or a Casual One? 7 Ways to Make New Friends as an Adult 3 Apps That Help You Build Aligned Friendships Effective Conversation Skills for New Friendships When "Letting It Fizzle" Doesn't Work Friendship Breakups: Talking vs. Blocking Let’s Talk About the Term “Best Friend” Setting New Boundaries in Old Friendships Friendship Takes Many Forms: The Remarkable Life of Ibelin ⁠CozyEarth.com ⁠- Right now, you can stack my code HELPLESS on top of their sitewide sale - giving you up to 40% off in savings. ____ If Self-Helpless has supported you, a quick 5-star rating or review (if you haven’t already) means so much! ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-helpless/id1251196416⁠ Free goodies including The Quote Buffet and The Watch & Read List: ⁠https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/⁠ Ad-free episodes now available on ⁠Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless⁠ Your Host, Delanie Fischer:⁠ https://www.delaniefischer.com⁠ ____ Episodes related to this topic: Craving A Healthy Relationship? Understand Your Attachment Style with Thais Gibson: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/228cc412/craving-a-healthy-relationship-understand-your-attachment-style-with-thais-gibson How To Un-F*** Your Relationships: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/22c987e4/how-to-un-fck-your-relationships The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/dd3a637b/the-5-love-languages-by-gary-chapman How Enmeshment Trauma Impacts Every Relationship You Have with Dr. Kate Balestrieri: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/316bfe5c/how-enmeshment-trauma-impacts-every-relationship-you-have-with-dr-kate-balestrieri Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Lately, I've been so stuck in my head that I forget just about everything my therapist said.
0:08.8	Maybe I'm self-helpless.
0:11.2	Hey, everyone.
0:11.9	Welcome to Self-Hupless, where science, spirituality, and sustainability are brunch buddies.
0:16.5	I'm Delaney Fisher, and details about today's topic can be found in the episode description.
0:20.8	Returning listeners, if an episode of Self-Hupless has supported you in some way, Delaney Fisher and details about today's topic can be found in the episode description.
0:25.5	Returning listeners, if an episode of Self-Houpless has supported you in some way, a quick five-star rating or review, if you haven't left one already, honestly keeps this indie podcast alive
0:31.4	amidst the big old budget behemoths out there. So thank you for feeding the algorithm a little
0:37.4	treat for me. Ad free episodes
0:39.2	are now on Patreon at patreon.com slash self-helpless. And info about some free goodies will be shared in the
0:45.5	outro. Okay. It's podcast time. I'm excited to talk about friendships. Super important. Especially as adults,
0:52.6	as we get older, things can be a little bit different than maybe when you have a
0:57.2	built-in friend group in in school or you know your job or whatever it is so i thought it would be
1:03.0	helpful if maybe we discuss how to find new friendships how to establish them and kind of build them
1:09.9	and also what to do if you feel like a
1:11.9	friendship is no longer a fit. So I would love to start off with something that I heard you say in
1:17.6	an interview that I really, really liked, which was find your purpose, find your people.
1:22.9	So what did you mean by that exactly? And why are friendships important for our well-being in the first place?
1:28.5	Why, like, why should we even care about having friendships?
1:31.7	What I meant by that in terms of finding your purpose, finding your people, your purpose is you.
1:37.4	What are the ingredients to really building our friendships?
1:39.8	The ingredients start with us being fully cooked, if that makes sense.
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