Abusive Relationships #2 (2021 Rerun)
Psychology In Seattle Podcast
Kirk Honda
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🗓️ 29 May 2025
⏱️ 89 minutes
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March 15, 2021
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| 0:00.0 | Hey, deserving listeners. This episode is part two in which I respond to your questions about abuse. |
| 0:06.6 | So let's get into it. This is the Psychology in Seattle podcast. I'm your host, Dr. Kirk Honda. I'm a therapist and a professor. |
| 0:13.5 | You might want to listen to episode one before you listen to this one, because I'm going to assume that you heard that. |
| 0:19.5 | And just right from the start, if you know |
| 0:21.2 | anyone who is suffering from abuse or you're suffering from abuse yourself, you can certainly call |
| 0:25.4 | 911 or the authorities, but you can also go online and contact the domestic violence hotline |
| 0:32.3 | or the national domestic violence hotline. It's just called thehotline.org. And so you want to go there |
| 0:37.3 | for help and guidance, |
| 0:39.5 | and they might be able to set you up with professionals in your area. All right, movie zoomer, Heather, |
| 0:44.5 | she has a question here from the fan page. I imagine that all abuse is traumatic, but not all traumas are |
| 0:53.0 | abusive. So this is an interesting, and she goes on to |
| 0:56.7 | add other questions, but I just want to sort of address this first sentence here. I imagine that all |
| 1:02.5 | abuse is traumatic, but not all traumas are abusive. All right. So first, let's define what is abuse and what is what is trauma. We talked a lot about that in the last episode, but maybe it, you know, we should revisit that and also maybe expand it a little bit. All right. So what is abuse? Let's talk about, you know, what is abuse? Is it a pattern of control? That's what we talked about a lot last episode, |
| 1:30.9 | a pattern of intimate partner violence or domestic violence, a pattern of control and power |
| 1:36.6 | and breaking someone down, doing all sorts of things to establish control over the other person, including getting into the mind of the victim. |
| 1:47.7 | Is that what abuse is? Okay. Yeah, certainly that is abuse, but there are other usages for the term abuse. |
| 1:54.5 | Could a parent do something abusive once and not have it be a pattern? Yes, they could commit an abusive act. Could a |
| 2:03.5 | coworker that you barely interact with abuse you? Yeah, probably, right? Are we talking about |
| 2:09.8 | harmful behavior? So do we need a pattern to be present? Or could it be a one-time event, |
| 2:16.8 | a one-time harmful behavior? |
| 2:19.3 | Or do we need long-lasting effects? |
| 2:22.3 | Because let's look at one event where a parent uses corporal punishment on a child. |
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