especially abusive and controlling spouses will try to convince their spouse that no outside

help will help. Oh, if you go to them, they're going to do this and this and this and this and this

is going to happen and that bad thing and it's going to be all your fault. Okay, that's not true.

Don't take responsibility for exposing error. This is an interesting question. My husband says

he's a Christian, goes to church with me, puts on this Christian front in front of everyone,

but when he gets home, he's a completely different person. He's verbally abusive, he's condescending,

he's right, he criticizes and the problem with this marriage is they have no one to talk to.

I can't go to the pastor, I can't go to the friends and that seems to be a theme through this,

like these women don't have anyone to talk to. Yeah. So, okay, you can answer that.

So, on the outset, I'm going to trust that this description is totally accurate

nor would it help me to guess it and accuracy is there. So that scenario is really tough.

Here's a three-step plan. Here's a Christian value that people don't realize as in marriages,

is the value of confronting people who sin against you and involving the community when it

doesn't work. There's a Christian value people don't generally talk about, but it's actually

biblical Jesus tells us to do it. So Matthew 18, I'll read a few verses here. If your brother

sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he listens to you,

you've gained your brother, but if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you that

every charge may be established by the evidence of two or three witnesses. If he refuses to

listen to them, tell it to the church. And if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be

to you as a Gentile and tax collector. So, step one, tell your husband, now probably this has

already happened, but let's just say it's start with step one, it may have already happened there,

but you tell your husband, and this is not just a sudden dumping of complaints because if frustration

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