This is understanding today's narcissist.

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And now here's your host, Christine Hammond.

Hi, this is going to be part three of our abuse tactics that narcissists use.

And today we're talking about verbal abuse.

So verbal abuse is kind of obvious as to what that looks like it, because it's how a person speaks and it's what they say. And I just want to make sure

that we're clear on all of the different ways that verbal abuse is actually used. It's a very powerful abuse tactic

because a narcissist can wear you down

and then spin you around through the words that they're saying.

And before you realize it,

they've convinced you that what is up is really down

and what is down is really up and that their verbal

assaults are not their fault, but actually your fault. So it's a way of using words to very

quickly intimidate you and while simultaneously demonstrating their superiority and their dominance in a situation.

So the attack usually catches a person off guard.

It's very direct.

And because it's caught off guard, they usually get some level of victory from doing that.

It's very sharp, direct, curt, and hurtful, and very painful. They usually go right for the jugular

in order to get you to a place of total submission. So a lot of times this begins in secret in a

relationship and then it gets expanded out outside of that. And when it's done in public,

if ever it's done in public, there's always some kind of like super shallow apology that goes

along with it because they don't ever really apologize for what they've done, nor do they

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