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From the New York Times and WBUR Boston, this is Modern Love.

Stories of Love, Laws, and Redemption.

I'm your host, Megna Chakrabardi.

Some fathers get to know their daughter's love interest by inviting him or her over for dinner.

Other dads go straight to Google.

Amelia Blankera's father preferred the latter.

Danielle Brooks, best known as Tasty on the Netflix series Oranges The New Black,

reads Amelia's essay about that Russell in the Bushes.

When my sister, Ardell, first told me about the binder,

I could feel my body tense.

A younger version of me would have immediately dialed my father and confronted him.

Because who would believe that my 77 year old father, Google stocks my boyfriends

and keeps a binder of his salvaged details and opinions for reference?

But years of therapy taught me to wait 10 seconds before automatically exploding with anger.

So, in this case, I was able to keep cool long enough to decide to bring it up later with him in person.

If you were to look up the term helicopter parenting in the Wikipedia of my life,

you would see a picture of my parents.

They would be the ones in the Huey.

The ominous military chopper used in the Vietnam War.

Noisy and clunky, my parents made their presence known.

In my childhood house, they read mail addressed to my siblings in me,

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