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A sex therapist's secret to rediscovering your spark | Ian Kerner

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Health & Fitness, Fitness, Shoshana Ungerleider, Medicine, How To Be Healthier, Ted Shoshana, Ted Talks Health

4.21.5K Ratings

🗓️ 13 June 2023

⏱️ 14 minutes

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Summary

Sex therapist Ian Kerner hears about a common problem from his patients: "failure to launch," or the inability to build and maintain sexual momentum. What's the solution? Whether you're looking to reignite the spark in your relationship or reconnect with your own desire, Kerner shares advice on how to cultivate your erotic imagination and get back on the "arousal runway." Note: This talk contains mature content. In order to protect patient privacy, the speaker has combined or adjusted several patients' experiences.

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0:00.0

Ted Audio Collective

0:14.0

Hi there, it's Dr. Shoshana Ungerleiter, the host of Ted Health.

0:18.0

What if overcoming sexual hurdles was as simple as understanding the power of psychological arousal?

0:26.0

In his TED Talk, renowned sex therapist Ian Kerner, likened sexual problems to two things,

0:33.0

and the pandemic to a grueling root canal.

0:37.0

A time when it was hard for people to feel sexy, let alone desire intimacy.

0:42.0

Drawing from his work with couples, Kerner introduces us to the concept of an arousal runway.

0:50.0

So this talk will not only help you understand the critical role of psychological arousal in rekindling the flames of desire,

0:57.0

but also provide practical tools to establish it.

1:01.0

Please note, this talk contains mature content.

1:05.0

In order to protect patient privacy, the speaker has combined or adjusted several patient's experiences.

1:19.0

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1:45.0

So having a sex problem is like having a toothache.

1:49.0

By the time you get to the dentist or to me a sex therapist, you just want to get out of pain.

1:56.0

But what we just went through with COVID, that was like a sexual root canal.

2:01.0

I mean, we spent months not changing out of our pajamas and sometimes not showering.

2:07.0

No wonder so many of us lost our libidos.

2:11.0

It's not that we're not sexual people. We want to want sex. We just don't want it.

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