A prayer for communication during conflict by D.A. and Alicia Horton.

There is no fear in love, but perfect love drives out fear because fear has to do with punishment.

The one who fears is not made perfect in love.

1st John 418.

Learning to communicate in times of conflict is crucial for a healthy marriage.

It's easy to assume that conflict is a bad thing and try to avoid it,

but conflict is not inherently bad.

In fact, conflict is a great tool that reveals past hurts and brokenness, so that couples can

confront them and find true healing.

Healthy communication is how conflict can be resolved in marriage. Resolving conflict is different from

avoiding or merely managing conflict. In our marriage when we avoided conflict, we

suppressed our pain until we'd blow up and have an argument that lasted for hours

followed by days of uneasiness

Managing conflict meant that we were putting band-aid solutions on gaping heart wounds that were becoming infected with bitterness,

but there is a better way to manage conflict in the Christian marriage.

To successfully engage in healthy conflict resolution, you must first identify the ways in which you and your spouse deal with anger and disappointment.

Often anger stems from fear.

Thinking of conflict in terms of the acronym,

Fear, will help you identify the four ways in which you might respond to your spouse

when angry or disappointed.

Number one, fight.

Making verbal attacks with trigger words

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