All right, team, welcome back to the Man Talk show.

Connor Beaton here.

And today, I'm going to be talking to you about how to help your partner when they are

anxious.

So if your girlfriend or your wife is somebody that struggles with anxiety and you're not really

too sure what to do, whether they have an anxious attachment, whether they just struggle with

anxiety in general. We are going to be talking about what anxiety is, the signs that your partner

might be anxious and the signs that oftentimes we miss and then what to do specifically.

Now, what I want you to know up front is that just because she's anxious, just because your

partner is anxious, it doesn't mean that there is something wrong with her or you or the

relationship. And it doesn't mean that there is something for you specifically

to fix what happens for a lot of men, especially the nice guys or the guys that find their worth

and their value and sort of providing solutions within a relationship is that they can get

caught in this loop that every single time that your partner gets anxious or has some anxiety, that your rational brain turns on is like, okay, let me figure out how to solve this problem. And that can create more anxiousness in your partner. It can cause them to feel like there's something wrong with them, perpetuate the anxiety. It can frustrate the crap out of you

because, you know, you are very likely not able to solve their anxiety or fix it indefinitely

and so it can create all types of challenges. So what is anxiety? Well, the anxiety that I'm talking

about in the way they're going to be talking about is an excess of energy in the body.

Right. So neurologically, when you look at the brain and you look at the different centers of the brain and the neurons that are firing in the different centers of the brain when you're having anxiety is very similar to the parts of the brain that are firing when you are having excitement.

So the anxiety that I'm talking about is an elevated state within the body, an elevated

energetic state and an elevated alarm state in the body. So it might be an excess of thoughts, might be an excess of unwanted physical

sensations, it might be an excess of emotions that feel a little wild or uncontrollable. And it's

generally an excess of future-based realities, future-based worrying. Now, that worrying, just to sort of hone in on that one piece

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