A Man’s Guide To Feeling Your Feelings - Connor Beaton - #890

Modern Wisdom

Chris Williamson

Health & Fitness, Society & Culture

4.6 • 5.9K Ratings

🗓️ 16 January 2025

⏱️ 89 minutes

🔗️ Recording | iTunes | RSS

🧾️ Download transcript

Summary

Connor Beaton is a men’s life coach, founder of ManTalks and an author focusing on men’s wellness and personal growth. Emotions can be challenging. Some bring joy and comfort, while others we’d rather avoid entirely. But what if learning to embrace all emotions—even the uncomfortable ones—could lead to greater growth and understanding? Expect to learn why men have bad reputations with emotions, what emotions exactly are and why they’re important, how people can learn to start feeling their feelings, the emotions men struggle with the most and how to get more comfortable with feeling them, if there is any strength in suppressing emotions, if there is a way men can do all of the inner work by themselves or if they should seek outside help, and much more… Timestamps: (00:00) Why Men Have a Bad Reputation With Emotions (05:22) Men’s Emotions in Dating (15:28) How Do I Know If I Have Emotional Issues? (19:37) Why Men Try to Think Their Way Through Emotions (24:17) How to Start Feeling Your Feelings (40:36) How Men Can Deal With Anger & Anxiety (51:07) Should Men Mask Their Emotions at All? (01:05:41) How to Stop Explaining Away Emotions (01:12:34) Having Emotions Doesn’t Make You Less of a Man (01:24:36) Where to Find Connor Sponsors: See discounts for all the products I use and recommend: https://chriswillx.com/deals Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period from Shopify at https://shopify.com/modernwisdom Get 10% discount on all Gymshark’s products at https://gym.sh/modernwisdom (use code MODERNWISDOM10) Get a Free Sample Pack of all LMNT Flavours with any purchase at https://drinklmnt.com/modernwisdom Extra Stuff: Get my free reading list of 100 books to read before you die: https://chriswillx.com/books Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic: https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom Episodes You Might Enjoy: This Is How To Master Your Life - David Goggins - #577: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Goggins⁠⁠⁠ How To Destroy Your Negative Beliefs - Dr Jordan Peterson - #712: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Peterson⁠⁠⁠ The Secret Tools To Hack Your Brain - Dr Andrew Huberman - #700: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Huberman⁠⁠ - Get In Touch: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/modernwisdompodcast Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcript

Click on a timestamp to play from that location

0:00.0	Why do men have a bad reputation with emotions, do you think? Oh, man. I mean, I think that we,
0:08.1	I think that generally we feel emotions pretty intensely. And so when our emotions let loose,
0:14.8	sometimes it's, it cannot be pretty. It can be loud. It can be big. It can be intense.
0:24.3	And so I think sometimes men have a bad rap because of that.
0:30.9	I think that there's been a few generations of men that have been told not to feel that their best emotional tool is suppression, is repression is just like stuff it down,
0:37.0	pour some whiskey over top, you know,
0:40.0	light some weed up and just keep soldiering on, right? Stiff upper lip, as I think they say in
0:45.5	your country. And so I think we've gone through a few generations of men who used avoidance
0:52.0	as their main tool with emotions. And because of that, cut themselves off from
0:58.0	some pretty important data and information. And so a lot of men have just, you know,
1:01.7	older generations haven't been able to speak the language of emotions of what they're
1:05.8	feeling, of what they're going through. But I think having worked with men for over a decade, you know, tens of thousands
1:13.4	of men from around the world, men feel very deeply. I think it's not that men don't feel. I think
1:20.3	it's that men feel very deeply. And we've in some cultures created a vacuum of being able to
1:26.5	teach men what to do with their emotions,
1:29.7	how to actually traverse through their emotions. So I think those are parts of it. I'm curious
1:36.0	what your thought is on that, though, as well, because even you talk to a lot of people in this
1:39.8	space. Yeah, I think you're right. We don't exactly have fantastic emotional role models as men. And
1:47.3	you mean Homer Simpson and Peter Griffin are the like the role models of emotional acuity.
1:53.4	Who's that who's the guy that used to be like, ah, and then would hit his wife, like pretend to hit his wife on like some sitcom? Who is that American guy? I'm not from this country. I don't fuck. I don't, I think that's, I think that's
2:03.0	before my time. I'm not sure. Very well, maybe. Yeah, you know, it was the 50s. It was a different time.
2:07.4	The hands were softer. Um, so yeah, I think the role model of the kind of bumbling, unfeeling,
	...

Please login to see the full transcript.

Previous episode | Next episode

Disclaimer: The podcast and artwork embedded on this page are from Chris Williamson, and are the property of its owner and not affiliated with or endorsed by Tapesearch.

Generated transcripts are the property of Chris Williamson and are distributed freely under the Fair Use doctrine. Transcripts generated by Tapesearch are not guaranteed to be accurate.