All right, team, welcome back to The Man Talk Show. I am Connor Beaton.

And today we are going to be taking a deep dive into shame, into ending shame, into what it is,

why it shows up, why it's so damn hard to get rid of.

Some of the physiological pieces of shame that are very, very important in order to move through it.

What does not help you reduce shame, which is actually important because there is a lot of

garbage advice out on the internet.

Some of it even coming from coaches or therapists, that actually can

accentuate the shame that you're experiencing. And then we're to talk finally at the end about

how do you move through shame. And here's what I want you to know. Normally, I would say,

if you just want the solution, skip ahead to the solution. But for this, it's actually imperative to know and understand some of the

pieces I'm going to explain in terms of what shame is and why it's so hard to get rid of. So let's go. Let's

get into this. So let's begin with what is shame? Well, it's many, many things, but for most people,

shame is a cognitive story, a narrative or a belief system of not being good enough, of being broken, of something being

foundationally or fundamentally wrong with them. So the narrative internally is,

there's something wrong with me. And there's a good saying that guilt says I did something wrong, whereas shame says I am wrong. So that's really what shame is. It is a belief system that there's something fundamentally wrong with you. And then there is a physiological response associated with that,

which we are going to dive deep into because it is incredibly important to understand

what's happening in the body when you are experiencing shame. So with that said, and I'm going to

expand on some of this as we go along, I want to talk a little bit about why shame is so hard to get

rid of. Because if you're watching this video, my guess is that you have probably at some point

had a conversation with a therapist or a coach about your shame. Maybe you've looked up some other

content. Maybe you've read a book, right? There's some great books out there. And yet the shame persists. So there's

different varying degrees of shame, right? You might be somebody who's like, I experienced shame once

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