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Hey, this is Annie.

And Samantha.

And welcome to Steph One Never Told You, a production of IHeart Radio.

So we're back on part two of friendships.

And if you didn't listen to the early one, I guess you can be, you're okay, you're okay.

Because you could go back after you're listening to this one.

But if you want to come in like a chronological order, I would say go back.

Because we're going to jump in. We just kind of talked about childhood stuff, and now we're going to talk about adult stuff. So what does,

or how has it changed, rather, this friendship thing as adults? What is it like today?

Well, Samantha, I can tell you. Tell me. I will say a lot of people have done so much research on this.

CR Part 1, but this whole idea of making adults is making friends as adults.

How does that happen?

How's that at work?

Oh, no, no one can do it.

So, yeah, people have looked into, has our changing

times impacted what friendship looks like today? And yeah, not not in every way, but in a couple of important ways. So there is a bit, there has been a shifting understanding of what women's friendships look like. Here's a quote from Elle. Then things started to change. She began dropping plans with me to do things with whomever she was seeing instead, always a man, of course. I didn't get it. Why would

hanging out with some guy she barely knew be more important than plans with me? To her,

disregarding my feelings to promote romantic ones with someone else was a totally fine thing to do.

When I got mad at her for spontaneously going with a guy, she'd been dating for two weeks to a local farm that we had talked about visiting for ages.

She told me, matter-of-factly, I was raised to look for the person who I am going to share my life with, and that's my priority.

Okay, so obviously, for context, she's talking about a friend very close to her, who she started noticing, was dropping her for these kind of heterosexual relationships with men.

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