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Hey there, folks. It is Wednesday, September the 10th.

And one of our readers wrote in asking for some very serious relationship advice.

And what we want to say right now is thank you to so many of you who opened up and really helped this guy out of a situation that it seems like so many others have dealt with.

And with that, welcome to this Ask Amy and T.J. edition of Amy and T.J. Roads, I think I'm trying to put it in the right way. We've been doing this column with Yahoo for a little while now.

The responses on this one are the most what we've gotten so far,

the most intimate, personal, vulnerable, sincere, kind even in a lot of ways.

All of what you just mentioned are true, yes, because I think a lot, I didn't realize

how many people out there have dealt with this.

And truly, if you've ever been divorced and if you've ever thought that you're, you know,

most people when they get married and they have kids, they feel like that's it.

That's their forever family.

And often cases, we know that that's just. That's their forever family. And often cases,

we know that that's just not true. And so decisions you make with one family suddenly are not

necessarily in line with what you need or want with your next wife or your next relationship. And so

this is a very relatable situation where a man had a vasectomy after having two kids with his first

wife gets divorced,

marries another woman. She knows he's had a vasectomy. And now four years later, she says,

hey, could you get your vasectomy reversed? And could we have our own family? And this hit a nerve

with a lot of readers who have had very similar experiences. You know, I didn't think until we kind of start talking about this now, we talk about

specifically avasectomy, but isn't it the case? Isn't it almost every relationship you come

to some point, some conversation has to be had about kids? Yes. Who wants them? Who doesn't?

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