A Hostage Negotiator’s Advice for Difficult Conversations & How to Stay Alive Longer

Something You Should Know

Mike Carruthers | OmniCastMedia

Science, Social Sciences, Self-improvement, Education, Health & Fitness

4.6 • 4K Ratings

🗓️ 14 July 2025

⏱️ 52 minutes

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There is an experience some of us (but not all) are able to have called autonomous sensory meridian response or ASMR. It can be triggered by a soft monotonous voice explaining something as well as other triggers. Sounds weird, right? Listen as I explain how it works, why science doesn’t recognize it as a real thing but for many of us, it is a wonderful sensation, and I will tell you how to experience it. https://www.mentalfloss.com/article/53220/listening-soft-voices-can-cause-brain-orgasms The YouTube video link mentioned is: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CHiKxytbCWk Difficult conversations are never fun, but they are necessary. Whether you are negotiating for a raise or having a tough conversation with your spouse or friend, there are ways to make these conversations go better for you and everyone involved. Here to offer some expertise on this is Ryan Dunlap a former police detective and hostage negotiator. He has been involved in a lot of high stakes negotiations in his career and he is author of the book How to Untie a Balloon: A Negotiator's Guide to Avoid Popping Under Pressure (https://amzn.to/3Ia2c72) What are the best practices for living a long and healthy life? There are many theories on this but here to discuss the science of longevity is John Tregoning who explains that living a long life may best be accomplished by living a good life. John is Professor of Vaccine Immunology at Imperial College London and has published over sixty academic papers. He is author of the book, Live Forever?: A Curious Scientist's Guide to Wellness, Ageing and Death (https://amzn.to/4kc9B2J). How do you write a good business email? Interestingly, there are some common mistakes people make that water down the message in business emails by making them sound more like personal emails. Listen as I reveal how to avoid that. https://www.inc.com/geoffrey-james/7-common-habits-that-kill-credibility.html#ixzz3c6aUXNnN PLEASE SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS!!! SHOPIFY: Shopify is the commerce platform for millions of businesses around the world! To start selling today, sign up for your $1 per month trial at⁠ https://Shopify.com/sysk⁠ INDEED: Get a $75 sponsored job credit to get your jobs more visibility at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://Indeed.com/SOMETHING⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ right now! QUINCE: Stick to the staples that last, with elevated essentials from Quince! Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://Quince.com/sysk⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365 day returns! HERS: Hers is transforming women’s healthcare by providing access to affordable weight loss treatment plans, delivered straight to your door, if prescribed. Start your initial free online visit today at ⁠https://forhers.com/something⁠ DELL: The Black Friday in July event from Dell Technologies is here. Upgrade for a limited-time only at ⁠https://Dell.com/deals⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	I had the absolute pleasure of speaking to Pamela Anderson.
0:04.2	All thanks to the Dove Self-Eesteem Project.
0:07.1	We speak about the impact Y2K has had on women's body confidence and how Pamela has regained control.
0:12.9	The Dove Self-Esteen project is an amazing initiative supported by science-backed methodology
0:17.8	to help us improve our relationship with our bodies.
0:20.8	To find more
0:21.4	body confidence-building exercises, go to dove.com forward slash Y2K. That's Y2K spelled W-H-Y2K.
0:31.7	Today, on something you should know, how watching someone fold towels could be the best few moments of your entire day.
0:40.4	Then advice for the next negotiation or difficult conversation you have to have.
0:46.3	The goal here is to be able to tell somebody else what they want so accurately that when you're
0:52.0	done describing their side of the argument, they say, yes, that's exactly what I'm looking for. Because when people feel heard and felt and seen,
1:00.0	their guard decreases. Also, a great way to improve your email messaging, and the latest science
1:07.0	and how to live a long and healthy life.
1:10.0	This idea that actually quality has a quantity of its own,
1:13.6	that if you improve the quality of your life,
1:16.6	you can actually increase the quantity too.
1:18.6	Doing things that you love with people that you love
1:22.6	will increase the quality and quantity of your life.
1:25.6	All this today on Something You Should Know.
1:30.5	Rated T for Teen.
1:32.1	Each year, thousands of adults lose their shred.
1:35.7	It's an epidemic simply known as shred loss,
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