Welcome to Let It Be Easy with Susie Moore.

When was the last time you had a big, dare I say, exaggerated or overreaction to something? Your response to something that may, with some perspective,

may have been a little trivial,

but your reaction was big.

Maybe you felt a lot of negative emotion, maybe you snapped at somebody, maybe you cried.

When was the last time this happened to you? Because these moments are gifts. They can give us incredible laser insight into what

it is within us. They can use a little healing. I learned about what's called a schema S-C-H-E-M-A from Wendy Bahari, who is the world

leading expert in narcissism.

Please check out our podcast interview.

If you haven't already, it's one of my first interviews

here on the Let It Be Easy Podcast.

But through studying her work and reading her books, I came to understand the schemas that we all have. There are 18 schemas.

And what it means essentially is that we all have these triggers within us that can allow us to

feel a lot of heavy big emotions because it's touching an old wound.

I want to give you a couple of examples of how this shows up in my life in the lives of those around me.

A friend of mine was skiing with her husband recently. She's not very used to skiing. She's kind of

newer to it and you know as new skiers do we fall over a lot. Hey it happens to me a

hundred times. I'm cool how I try to be. But one day when they were skiing she fell over and he said,

come on, get up and like gave her his hand and didn't give her much attention or oh my gosh are you

okay he wasn't fawning it you know he's clearly quite used to her falling and he just

said look get up let me help. In that moment, her schema of not being protected as a child overtook

her and she cried. And then he was like, oh my gosh, I'm so sorry, are you

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