99. Not Who We Used to Be: Change in the Aftermath of Life Quakes
Spiritually Hungry
Monica Berg and Michael Berg
4.8 • 617 Ratings
🗓️ 19 July 2022
⏱️ 14 minutes
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Summary
We each experience trauma in unique ways, but one thing is certain: it forever changes us. Processing trauma comes with grief, disappointment, and a fundamental shift in how we exist in the world. However, we ultimately get to choose how it changes us. In this mini episode of Spiritually Hungry, Monica and Michael discuss how to weather life quakes and become softer and more open because of them.
“We can either be hardened by things that happen to us, or we can know that we are changed and choose growth and transformation.” – Monica Berg
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma
by Bessel van der Kolk M.D.
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| 0:00.0 | Really look at your lives and think about that moment or those moments that you've had. |
| 0:15.0 | And were you hardened by them? |
| 0:17.0 | Were you changed that way? |
| 0:18.0 | Or did you become something that was far freer and more flexible and just different |
| 0:21.3 | but not bad welcome to the spiritually hungry podcast episode 99 summer edition today we're |
| 0:30.8 | talking about trauma and that we get to choose how it changes us which I think think is a very powerful idea. And I've been reading |
| 0:39.8 | a book this summer, which I'm really excited about, the body that keeps the score by Bessel van |
| 0:47.9 | Durr-Koke. Let's assume I'm saying that correctly, but basically the book is called the body |
| 0:52.7 | that keeps the Score. |
| 1:02.6 | So when we get knocked down, right, fall, suffer significant loss, any traumatic lifequake, |
| 1:04.9 | we're going to be changed forever. |
| 1:09.9 | And I think that it's really important for people to stop and think about times in their lives where they feel like |
| 1:11.0 | they've had a trauma or a life quake and think about what changed in that moment. Because, |
| 1:17.8 | you know, the question often is, how do you get back up after you've fallen? How do you, you know, |
| 1:24.6 | how do you go on? How do you move forward? The first thing I think is to have the |
| 1:28.1 | consciousness and the awareness that you are now changed forever. But the power that you have here is that |
| 1:35.3 | you can either allow yourself to be changed by this thing that happened to you or maybe that you |
| 1:40.0 | did to yourself. And you can, and usually that kind of change is not the one that you want. |
| 1:45.4 | You're going to change in ways that, you know, usually are negative or that you don't |
| 1:48.9 | recognize yourself later. But in that moment, you can actually choose to grow and to become |
| 1:54.8 | a different version of herself, one that's more elevated, enlightened. There's tremendous |
| 1:59.4 | transformation in growth. |
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