I've always said this, disinterest is closure.

While we sit there looking for closure from a demon,

we have to remember that the fact that they're not interested enough to continue with us,

the fact that they're not messaging us, the fact that they left us in that moment

simply means that they're not our person, that they can't give us what we need.

That is all the closure we need.

Disinterest is closure.

Let's talk about the two types of people from our past that cause us pain in the present.

Angels and demons. Let's start with demons. A demon is someone who perhaps started as a ghost,

someone you really liked. Perhaps someone you think loved bond you, someone that you got close to

and then disappeared. Either fizzled out or it ended abruptly with no explanation.

And you found that over time they turned from a ghost who gave you no closure to a demon who

you came to love. How dare they. I don't even know why they gave up on what we had. We had this

connection. They disappeared. They led me on and then they left me high and dry. We get frustrated.

We start to develop this idea of this person. Perhaps as a narcissist, one way of turning someone

into a demon is to immediately label them a narcissist. Something that appears to be very popular

right now. We look at them and we say they're a terrible person. They've caused me all of this

pain. And the danger of doing all of this is that we give this person an awful lot of power.

Turning someone into a demon is more a reflection of how much power we've given someone

than how terrible they are. I don't like giving people that much power. I'm not saying there aren't

people who have hurt us to a terrific degree. But turning them into these demons in our minds allows

them to occupy too much space there. I've always said this disinterest is closure. While we sit there

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