963: Charles Duhigg | Unlocking the Secret Language of Connection
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Jordan Harbinger
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🗓️ 12 March 2024
⏱️ 90 minutes
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Summary
How can we build rapport and optimize our connection with others? Supercommunicators author Charles Duhigg brings us the practical steps here!
What We Discuss with Charles Duhigg:- The three categories of conversation: practical, emotional, and social.
- The biological underpinnings of communication — such as neural entrainment — that make humans unique.
- How to become a better active listener through looping — ask a question, repeat back what you just heard the person say in your own words, and ask if you got it right.
- The difference between matching and mimicry in communication — and which one will serve you better.
- Understanding and overcoming stereotype threat.
- And much more...
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| 0:12.0 | Looping for understanding is a habit. |
| 0:14.0 | Like I find myself all the time without even thinking about it. |
| 0:17.0 | Ask a question, preferably a deep question. |
| 0:19.0 | Repeat back what you just heard the person say in your own words and ask if you got it right. |
| 0:25.0 | And the reason why this is so powerful is because it proves that I'm listening to you. |
| 0:29.0 | When we're talking to each other, there's something in the back of your head that's wondering, is he actually |
| 0:33.4 | listening or is he just waiting his turn to speak? And when I repeat back what you just |
| 0:38.0 | told me, when I ask a follow-up question that shows that I was paying attention, |
| 0:40.8 | when I prove that I'm listening, we are hardwired to want to listen back. |
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