Today's question Paul comes all the way from Guatemala and Jonathan is asking for some advice about babysitting and date nights with his wife.

They have one toddler and another baby on the way, but both his parents and his in-laws don't share their Christian faith and they're hesitant to leave their kids with parents because of what they might be exposed to.

What advice can you offer us in this situation, they ask?

Well, so when it comes to dating, I just really want to emphasize that I don't have a direct, thus saith the Lord for what I'm going to say.

And that's always important to be honest about that,

to make a separation between clearly written and declared biblical wisdom

and your attempt to your best of knowledge,

live in a way that's spiritually and relationally healthy.

So I don't have a thus say of the Lord, but I want to give my best shot at this answer.

Lle and I knew very early in our marriage that under the frenetic busyness of parenting and the frenetic business of ministry life, that we wouldn't get much time together.

And we were concerned that in all our busyness, we wouldn't

be nurturing our relationship and that we would begin to grow distant from one another.

We had seen that happen in other marriages. Marriage, because it's a relationship between a flawed person and a flawed person living in a fallen world

needs maintenance

you can't leave your marriage alone marriage our marriages will need work until we're on the other side

so this may seem radical Our marriages will need work until we're on the other side.

So this may seem radical to people who are listening to my answer,

but Llewell and I covenant with one another that we would be out of the house once a week,

somehow, some way.

No, we didn't go bowling.

We didn't go to a movie.

Because the idea was to be with one another,

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