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Shameless Leadership

956: LEADERSHIP MINDSET: The Leadership Advantage of Owning Your Failures & Fumbles

Shameless Leadership

Sara Dean

Self-improvement, How To, Business, Management, Education

4.7800 Ratings

🗓️ 9 September 2025

⏱️ 29 minutes

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Summary

Public failures and fumbles are painful to say the least.  I’ve recently had a handful of clients come to me feeling crushed after making a mistake, fumbling, or failing publicly. The most prominent outcome in all of their stories? SHAME. Their instinctual behavior to manage the shame? Hide, deny, or deflect. Fun fact, people don't actually trust leaders who never admit to making mistakes. Mistakes are a demonstration of humanity, authenticity, and vulnerability. We trust people who we see as human, fallible, and REAL. We trust people who aren't afraid to take accountability. We trust people who don't shy away from saying sorry. At the end of the day, our public mistakes don’t have to be the end of our credibility. In fact, they can become a powerful part of the evolution of our growth and credibility as a leader. In this episode, I’m digging into how public fumbles can actually make you a better leader, and I’ll walk you through the four steps (borrowed from restorative justice practices) to move through mistakes in a way that builds, rather than breaks, your credibility: Take responsibility for your part in the mess. Apologize for any harm done. Share and demonstrate what you’ve learned. Commit to the steps you’ll take to do better next time. By taking these steps, you are modeling humility, integrity, strength, grace, and a healthy sense of ego. When you model these things, people trust you MORE. People see you as more credible and authentic. People feel more connected to you. You become the kind of leader people remember and emulate.  I’ll also talk about how to let go of the shame of failure as an essential step for moving forward. The reality is, being a great leader is far more about being real than being perfect. Processing the shame is part of being real and giving yourself the grace to be imperfect. If you’ve ever found yourself in the spotlight for the wrong reasons—or feared what might happen if you do—this conversation will give you a roadmap for navigating those moments with integrity, humility, and strength. Links Mentioned: Attend my Influence & Ignite Retreat for Women Business Owners: saradean.com/retreat Hire me to speak: saradean.com/speaking Coach with me: https://saradean.com/executive-coaching-services Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/saradeanspeaks Watch Shameless Leadership episodes on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@saradeanspeaks Interested in becoming a sponsor of the Shameless Mom Academy? Email our sales team at sales@adalystmedia.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0

Welcome to shameless leadership. I'm your host, Sarah Dean. This show is for women, transgender people, non-binary folks, as well as allies, who are committed to advancing their leadership while also advancing the leadership of those around them. In each episode, we will offer practical tips, leadership strategies, and inspiring

0:21.9

stories to help you become a more confident, compassionate, and inclusive leader. The truth is,

0:27.5

you were born to lead. What might happen for you if you were to wholeheartedly embrace that

0:32.2

part of yourself? So let's start now, together. Hello, shameless leaders.

0:44.3

Today we're going to be talking about making mistakes and fumbling and when things get messy and when sometimes we may be completely fall on our face and fail in front of others.

0:48.9

And we're going to talk about what this looks like, what happens, what our primary emotion

0:53.5

typically is with this, what some of our primary emotion typically is with this,

0:55.0

what some of our primary default behaviors are with this, and then we're going to talk about

0:58.9

what you can do to start to work your way through moments of failure or moments of messiness

1:04.8

or moments of mistake making in public ways in a way that actually allows you to advance your

1:10.3

leadership in the process. So while this

1:13.5

doesn't feel easy and it's not desirable necessarily to have fumbling mistakes or to have

1:18.3

failures in front of others, it can be a really powerful way to remember your values, tap into

1:26.4

those values, make decisions based on your values,

1:29.2

and at the end of the whole thing, actually be in a stronger position to build trust

1:34.6

and credibility and authority than you were before, which sounds a little counterintuitive.

1:38.7

But follow me, hear me out.

1:40.1

I think you'll see where we're going with this.

1:41.9

And I think this will really help some of you who feel so either worried about failure in front of others or feel like it's just not allowed

1:50.0

and that we can't do that and that every time you fail, you have to try to cover it in some way

1:54.8

or that you can't be more transparent in being imperfect, which I know for many women can be

1:59.8

a big struggle. So let's dive right in.

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