Steve, there is a quite well known Maya Angelou quote that struck me as being extraordinarily

important when it comes to relationships. She was once famously speaking to Oprah and

she said when people show you who they are, believe them. They know themselves much

better than you do. And she was referring to those moments where people say, I'm a selfish

person, I'm not a kind person. I don't think of other people a lot. You know, when people

I'm a mean person, when people say those things and we shrug them off. I've had down

first dates, I've had people go like, I'm just really mean, I can be just so, I can

just be so nasty. Yeah. And that's a moment where you should believe someone. It's not,

when you're brother or your sister or your son or your daughter says that to you, your

jobs to see the best in them, your job is to see what they can be, your job is to encourage

them to be their best. That's what you do for family or for people you love. You see

the generous thing you can do for someone you love is to see the best in them even when

they don't see it in themselves so that they can be better through your love. But when

it comes to relationships, which you know, I sometimes think sometimes with family,

it's not always an equal exchange. With family, we do things for family because we love

them and we're not trying to get anything. We just want to love them. That's the job,

right? And if a family is, a member is toxic or is truly detrimental or dangerous for

your life, that's a different story and you have to decide how close you can keep that

person. But, but that aside, you can love a family member without expectation, without

wanting something in return. The same is not true of romantic love. That if you love

someone without expectation, that's unrequited. That's a recipe for unrequited love where

you can just love someone who's who's not good for your life or is ignoring you or

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