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92: Quickly apologizing: a principle that’s changed our marriage

Mint Arrow Messages

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Self-improvement, Education

51.6K Ratings

🗓️ 9 November 2020

⏱️ 46 minutes

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Summary

When Neil and I worked a 12-step program years ago, we both took on a serious commitment to “continue to take personal inventory, and when you’re wrong, promptly admit it.” This COMMITMENT has completely changed our relationship for the better. But it’s not always easy! And it certainly doesn’t come naturally for me. Today, we’re sharing a few stories from our own MARRIAGE of how we’ve applied this, exactly what it looks, feels, and sounds like, and how it can change all of your relationships for the better too. The rent is so high when you hold on to pride or resentment. While the payout is so huge when you learn to apologize to the people you love as QUICKLY as possible, and just let love conquer pride, even (and especially) when you’re not at fault. In this episode, you will hear: Saying “I was wrong” is often just as important as saying “I love you” in healing a relationship. A commitment to take responsibility for mistakes The great enemy of charity is pride. Pride is one of the biggest reasons marriages and families struggle. Especially when you are not at fault, let love conquer pride. Cleaning up your side of the street, figuring out where you did wrong in the situation Selfishness is one of the more common faces of pride. Don’t try to be perfect, try to be better. There is so much peace and happiness waiting on the other side of an apology. The central feature of pride is enmity toward God and enmity toward our fellow men. Satan's trick is to make us feel like we're getting something out of being resentful or being right or holding on to pride or anger. Supporting Resources: Talk by Dieter F. Uchtdorf “In Praise of Those Who Save” https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2016/04/in-praise-of-those-who-save?lang=eng The Church of Jesus Christ’s Addiction Recovery Program (ARP) Manual https://abn.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/manual/addiction-recovery-program-a-guide-to-addiction-recovery-and-healing?lang=eng Talk by Ezra Taft Benson “Beware of Pride” https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/1989/04/beware-of-pride?lang=eng Subscribe and Review Have you subscribed to our podcast? We’d love for you to subscribe if you haven’t yet. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. Episode Credits Produced by Emerald City Productions Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0

Whenale and I worked a 12-step program years ago, we both took on a serious commitment to continue

0:06.4

to take personal inventory and when you're wrong, promptly admit it.

0:10.7

This commitment has completely changed our relationship for the better.

0:14.8

But it's not always easy and it certainly does not come naturally for me.

0:19.2

So today we're sharing a few stories from our own marriage of how we've applied this and exactly what it looks and

0:25.0

feels and sounds like and how it can change all of your relationships for the better too. All right I'm here with me all.

0:35.0

Say hello and we are doing back-to-back episodes today and he was in charge of the first but I'm in charge of

0:45.4

the second episode recording back to back episodes we recorded one earlier

0:50.2

today yes and I did not tell him what the topic is of the second episode because I just want his

0:57.3

off the cuff thoughts. So today we are going to talk about step 10 and now and you know a lot of people will talk about this

1:08.6

So just so you guys know the 12 steps come from Alcoholics Anonymous and they've now been you know spun into so many

1:16.0

other different addictions too but they basically help people overcome addiction and

1:20.0

Neil and I have both worked a 12-step program and are very passionate about it and so

1:26.7

today we're going to talk about how step 10 is...

1:29.9

Continue to take personal inventory and when you're wrong promptly admitted.

1:34.2

I think the original AA version is continue to take personal moral inventory and when you're

1:40.2

wrong promptly admitted.

1:41.8

Okay. So this is a commitment that Neil and I made,

1:46.0

you know, however many years ago, four-ish years ago,

1:49.3

when we both, we both did our steps around the same time.

1:53.2

And I feel like it completely changed our marriage.

1:56.6

And we talked about that a little bit

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