92: I’m Not Ready for My Kid to Be in Love. Help!

Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Parenting

Dr. Lisa Damour/Good Trouble Productions

Kids & Family, Mental Health, Parenting, Health & Fitness

4.8 • 720 Ratings

🗓️ 1 November 2022

⏱️ 26 minutes

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Summary

How should we talk to our kids about what it means to fall in love? Parents know how good it can feel to make a strong connection and be on the receiving end of affection, but we also want to shield kids from heartbreak. Dr. Lisa helps walks us through how we can talk with our kids about both the emotional and physical sides of love, while Reena asks key questions about how to deal with the fact that these conversations are often uncomfortable for both parents and kids. Dr. Lisa explains how we can keep these important discussions going without being awkward or dismissive - offering a "swat team" strategy that can make a big difference. This episode also includes key guidance about how to make the most of the openings our kids provide to talk about young love. Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @Lisa.Damour, @ReenaNina Checkout Dr. Lisa’s website for more resources. https://www.drlisadamour.com/ Ask Lisa is produced by: https://www.goodtroubleproductions.com

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0:00.0	This is Ask Lisa, a podcast to help people understand the psychology of parenting.
0:10.0	Psychologist Dr. Lisa DeMore, author of two New York Times best-selling parenting books, takes your questions.
0:17.0	And I'm co-host, Rina Ninan, a journalist and mom of two.
0:24.2	Some of what we talk about comes from raising children ourselves.
0:28.2	Most of the time, I'll be getting answers to your parenting questions.
0:33.1	So send your questions to Ask Lisa at Dr.Lisademore.com.
0:42.9	Episode 92, I'm not ready for my kid to be in love. Help. The topic of love, young love.
0:47.6	Remember that feeling when you finally attracted to someone and you, yeah, it's like a drug.
0:54.6	Cushes, right?
0:55.6	You just think about like the crushes you have.
0:57.9	Yeah.
0:58.7	And the things you know now at 42 that you look back at the choices you made.
1:03.5	And 52, Rena, nearly 52.
1:06.9	We got this great letter, Lisa, that I think speaks to a lot of things that people are wondering about when their kids fall in love.
1:13.4	And it says, Dear Dr. Lisa, my 14-year-old stepdaughter is very, very interested in having a boyfriend.
1:19.6	We want her to have a healthy romantic relationship eventually.
1:23.0	But how do we know when that is?
1:25.3	She isn't going on dates or hanging out with guys.
1:28.0	However, we do know, through her phone usage, that she does a lot of texting to a few
1:32.1	specific guys in her grade.
1:33.9	Recently, with one specific guy, they've started texting back and forth to each other.
1:38.3	I love you.
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