A big one for kids that I think is so important that I didn't have and that a lot of us didn't have is telling little kids to hug people or telling them to kiss grandma or like give grandma a hug, give uncle Joe a hug.

And the little kid doesn't want to.

And then you're like, no, you have to give grandma hug. And there's nothing wrong with hugging grandma. The problem is that in that moment,

your son or daughter did not want to allow someone else to physically touch their body. And you made

them. Oh, you're going to hurt grandpa made them. Oh, you're going to hurt

grandpa's feelings. Oh, you're going to hurt Aunt Sarah's feelings. Then you're making it not about

what makes them feel safe, but about what someone else wants, which means you set them up for a

lifetime of someone going, well, if you don't do this, it's going to hurt my feelings.

No. up for a lifetime of someone going, well, if you don't do this, it's going to hurt my feelings. Hey guys, it's Rach. Welcome to the show. I'm so glad that you're here with us today. And I have a

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Hey guys, it's Rach.

Welcome to another episode in our Ask Rach series. These are conversations

where I answer call in questions. So we have a podcast hotline, people call in, they ask me anything.

And then you and I, we answer them together. I say that we answer them together because

when you hear this for the first time is also when you hear this for the first time is also

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