89. “He won’t marry me until I pay off my $15,000 credit card debt”

Money For Couples

Ramit Sethi

Relationships, Society & Culture, Investing, Business

4.6 • 3.1K Ratings

🗓️ 4 April 2023

⏱️ 86 minutes

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Summary

DJ and Adam, 37 and 33, have been dating for 3 years but DJ’s debt stands in the way of their potential marriage, as dictated by Adam, who’s been divorced in the past due to money issues. DJ recently doubled her income – and she has all the tools – but she’s frozen, unaccountable, and losing time. This episode is brought to you by: Babbel | Right now, when you purchase a 3-month Babbel subscription, you’ll get an additional 3 months for FREE. Just go to Babbel.com and use promo code RAMIT. Sakara | Right now, Sakara is offering our listeners 20% off their first order. Use code RAMIT during checkout at Sakara.com/ramit for 20% off all nutrition programs and wellness essentials. LMNT | Right now, LMNT is offering 8 single serving packets FREE with any LMNT order. This is a great way to try all 8 flavors. Get yours at DrinkLMNT.com/RAMIT. Links mentioned in this episode • Dream Job career research guide • Get my New York Times best-selling book • Download the Conscious Spending Plan Connect with Ramit • Get Money Coaching with Ramit • Get my no-numbers journal • Other episodes • Instagram • Twitter • YouTube If you and your partner have a money issue and you want my help, I occasionally select a couple to work with, free of charge. Apply for my help here. Produced by Crate Media.

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0:00.0	Have you heard people talking about the hedonic treadmill, the idea that once you start spending money on certain things
0:06.8	You're not going to enjoy it anymore and then they usually tell you this so therefore don't get on the hedonic treadmill
0:12.9	Don't spend any money if you get a raise bank at all. I don't love that advice. It's just getting people to play small
0:19.3	I would rather you have a philosophy or a framework on how to know when you are ready to spend more in my life
0:28.3	If you told me remit you can't stay at nice hotels
0:31.8	That would actually be very difficult for me because those things are important to me
0:36.2	For a lot of people if they own a house and you say you can't afford it anymore
0:39.9	You've got a rent or move into an apartment. They would find that incredibly difficult
0:44.4	I don't want you to be afraid of the hedonic treadmill and worry about spending money on anything because you're just gonna
0:49.9	Get used to it. So don't do it at all. No, I want you to have a more nuanced perspective on money
0:55.0	That's why this Saturday on my podcast newsletter. I'm going to share six main areas where once you spend money
1:01.6	It's really difficult to go back and my philosophy is to make sure that you are ready
1:07.5	To move up the value chain before you ever spend money on these things
1:11.9	I set my life up so I would never have to take a step back when it comes to nice hotels
1:16.6	I want you to do the same for the important things in your life get on the newsletter at iwt.com slash podcast newsletter
1:24.2	I'm only sending this particular newsletter out on Saturday, August 12th after that you will not be able to access it
1:30.4	Iwt.com slash podcast newsletter
1:36.1	Why don't you guys get married tomorrow? I don't think that would be wise for my finances
1:41.8	And I'm sorry that that's like it's not a great sentence to say like that feels like a dirty sentence
1:47.2	I just don't really quite understand how you get from being like
1:51.9	Putting things on credit and living paycheck to paycheck
1:55.4	Do you have to shut down your life for a year?
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