Hello my friends and welcome to another episode of the million pound mission

podcast it's your buddy Adam the PhD the previously heavy dude and this is

episode 88 my tips for encouraging someone else to get fit. This is a special Friday episode

where there's no theme song, no sponsor, just a quick actionable tip that you can take and

apply right away.

And this is a tricky topic.

I'm sure that some of you in the past

have tried to encourage a family member or a loved one

or a friend or a spouse to get in shape.

Maybe you're all just gung-ho about getting in shape, eating

healthy, and that friend or that partner of that spouse just isn't quite there yet, and

you want them, you want it so bad for them, but they don't quite want it yet.

So what the heck do we do?

Well first let's talk about what we should not do.

All right, you should not, like let's say you're talking to your spouse. You should not like call them out and be like, hey, you're overweight and you know, I'm trying hard and you need to try hard to because that's just going to create friction.

All right, making it about the issue that they're already struggling with,

that's not going to help them.

Obviously, there are like those like come to Jesus meetings that sometimes need to happen where there's a line drawn to the same but if we're just kind of broaching the topic for the first time or maybe the first couple of times we need to you know create a little bit of a buffer there and really try to keep things as

positive as possible. All right so we don't make it about the thing that are

already probably self-conscious about because it's so easy to turn this into a situation where they just

project all of that BS onto you and then it becomes a fight and then we're

never going to get them. I mean it's to be very very difficult to get him once they're projecting all this negativity onto you.

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