871: I’m Not a Mind Reader

ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show

Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo

Health & Fitness, Christianity, Religion & Spirituality, Kids & Family, Sexuality

4.4 • 1.7K Ratings

🗓️ 5 August 2025

⏱️ 29 minutes

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Learn about the unrealistic expectation that your spouse should be a mind reader and how this damages communication and intimacy. | “I know that you believe you understand what you think I said, but I'm not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant.” —Robert McCloskey Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: Join Menopause Shouldn't Such Today The 6 Pillars of Intimacy Conflict Resolution: The Secret to Breaking the Conflict Cycle in Your Marriage Apply for Coaching With Alisa Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	Enjoy fun adventures as you chart your course to create the extraordinary marriage you desire.
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0:20.8	Limited spots available. From Naples, Florida, this is a One Extraordinary Marriage Show. We're being busy as overdone. Romancing is fun, and scheduling sex has taken the guestwork out of wondering when you're going to get some. I'm Tony DeLorenzo, your co-host, along with my beautiful wife, Elisa. From coast to coast and around the world,
0:38.6	thank you for joining us. It's time to talk sex, love, and commitment. Give us a call or text us on
0:43.9	the hug hotline at 858-8765663, or send us an email to Hugs at One Extraordinary Marriage.com.
0:53.6	In today's episode, we're addressing the unrealistic expectation
0:57.2	that your spouse should be a mind reader in how this damages communication and intimacy.
1:03.0	And there's a quote from Robert McCloskey that says, I know that you believe you understand
1:07.8	what you think I said, but I'm not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant.
1:13.8	And I know a whole bunch of you right now, because I can see Tony's face are like, what heck did she just say?
1:18.4	And that's the point.
1:20.3	That's the point as we talk about this episode of being able to understand and interpret and all of that kind of stuff.
1:27.3	Sometimes it trips us up in marriage.
1:29.3	It trips us up when we get into this place of wanting our spouse to be able to read
1:34.6	our minds or expecting that they should be able to read our minds.
1:36.7	And we're going to be talking about that in today's episode.
1:39.3	But first, we start every episode with a hug.
1:41.2	And this hug comes from an Instagram DM that we received that started with, I appreciate this podcast. It goes on. My late wife posed for Boudoir and Art Nudes
1:51.9	in 2006 and 2010. The experience elevated our relationship. She felt more confident and beautiful
1:58.5	afterwards. I think she understood me better too.
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