Welcome to the Delight Your Marriage podcast, the show where you hear from amazing and

inspiring wives sharing their struggles, triumphs, and advice for this journey called marriage.

Here's your host, Bella Rose.

Hello, hello. You know, if you're anything like me, it happens frequently that you have to redirect your mind.

You have to refocus it and say, you know what, no, don't go into that spot of ridiculousness.

Let's center back in on what's really appropriate, what I really should be thinking about.

I read a book recently that said, when we tell our mind something, it runs around to try to

support that, you know, statement or that opinion. So if you tell yourself, my husband is no good,

your mind will run around and try to say this and that and this and that to try to convince you

that he is no good. And honestly, it doesn't matter if you're looking at the most perfect thing on earth.

If you want to criticize it, if you want to bring it down, you can. I mean, look at some of the

most amazing people. You can find hundreds of people that disagree with you. It just doesn't really matter because

that's how our mind is. It's so easy to tear down, but it's difficult. It takes concerted effort

and focused attention to build up. So I just want to encourage you, that's kind of what we're

getting at today is that if you focus on the good of your spouse,

on the peculiarities of who he or she is, you are going to find a lot of rich, really wonderful

blessings that you might not have taken the time to notice because all you've been focused on

is this negative stuff. So tell your mind,

my husband is amazing. And God is going to help you defend that position and give you all these

reasons. Recently, I wrote a very long letter in my journal to my husband about all the wonderful things he is to me.

And that really helped my mood.

So I just encourage you, if you are in this place and we all get there of thinking native

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