85: Ten Ways to Pick Yourself Up When You’re Beaten Down
Coaching for Leaders
Dave Stachowiak
4.8 • 1.6K Ratings
🗓️ 22 April 2013
⏱️ 41 minutes
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Summary
When we get beaten down, it’s important for us to take actions that will pick us back up. In this episode, I suggest ten things that you can do to pick yourself up after a difficult day, week, or month. If you are feeling beaten down right now, I challenge you to take action on at least one of these suggestions.
1) Find something to be in awe of…preferably something you had something to do with
2) Call the Leena in your life
- Beware of people who want to fix you
- Beware of people who don’t listen to you when you have a bad day.
- Find the people that will stop and listen
3) Help somebody who can do nothing for you
- The real test of a person’s character is to watch how they treat someone who can do nothing for them.
- Mother Theresa was a powerful example
- “The opposite of faith is not doubt, it’s certainty.” -Anne Lamott
- Who could you help?
4) Get outdoors
5) Read three pages of How To Stop Worrying and Start Living
- How to banish boredom
- What makes you tired and what you can do about it
- How to add one hour a day to your waking life
6) Teach people how to help you
7) Spend time with a small child
- Our son at church
- Our son at Toys ‘R Us
8) Get perspective to center you
- Great example: It Gets Better Project
- Find people who’ve walked down your path. “Ahead of you, with you, and behind you.”
9) Remember the Garth Brooks song, “Unanswered Prayers”
Sometimes I thank God for unanswered prayers
Remember when you’re talkin’ to the man upstairs
That just because he doesn’t answer doesn’t mean he don’t care
Some of God’s greatest gifts are unanswered prayers.
10) Have More Get Tos Than Got Tos
- The secret to happiness? Have more get tos than go tos.
A word of warning…the above won’t be enough if you are clinically depressed. Talk to your doctor and see a counselor or therapist if you need more help.
Also…you’ll forgot all of this the moment you get beaten down. That’s the time to come back to this episode.
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| 0:00.0 | Sometimes the world has just beaten you down and you need to pick yourself up and move on. |
| 0:07.0 | This week, how to do that. |
| 0:10.0 | This is Coaching for Leaders, episode number 85. |
| 0:14.0 | Produced by Innovate Learning, Maximizing Human Potential. |
| 0:18.0 | Greetings from Orange County, California. This is coaching for leaders and I'm your |
| 0:27.5 | host Dave Stahovia. This is a weekly show to help smart people improve their communication and leadership skills, |
| 0:37.0 | but also to inspire all of us to be the best we can possibly be, |
| 0:42.0 | and most of us are our own worst enemies and there are times |
| 0:46.8 | that we all are beaten down and in fact many of the times in my life that I've been beaten down, it is me. |
| 0:55.1 | I was the one who beat myself down. |
| 0:57.3 | Other people may have contributed to it, and they certainly weren't helpful, but |
| 1:01.0 | I was the one that really beat myself down. |
| 1:04.0 | And the thing that's really held me back at the times in my life when I found that I've hit the greatest obstacles, |
| 1:10.0 | when I've been in the way or something just hasn't been working for me if I really look back and |
| 1:15.5 | examine it truthfully and honestly and especially with the perspective now of getting older, |
| 1:21.1 | it's been me that's been in the way most often. And I just |
| 1:25.1 | was having dinner with a former student this week from seven or eight or nine |
| 1:29.0 | years ago who had a class with me and we got together for dinner and we were just |
| 1:32.4 | talking about life and business and you know just how people work and you know one of the things we both we both commented on that was that it's just so interesting how how we surround ourselves |
| 1:46.6 | how we the attitude we bring to our work every day to our family life every day how that has a huge |
| 1:55.0 | huge impact on our state of mind or well-being or effectiveness |
| 2:00.8 | and how we both acknowledge that there are times that we get beaten down and sometimes it is us and sometimes it's outside factors, |
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