85: My Kids Lose it When They Make Sports Mistakes. How Can I Help?

Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Parenting

Dr. Lisa Damour/Reena Ninan

Kids & Family, Mental Health, Parenting, Health & Fitness

4.8 • 720 Ratings

🗓️ 13 September 2022

⏱️ 29 minutes

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Summary

When kids get stuck or fall apart while playing sports, what should parents do? Dr. Lisa offers strategies for when kids lose their cool, and explains a key change in thinking can help kids manage when they make mistakes. She and Reena also discuss how to help kids appreciate the importance of being team players and the fact that kids rarely improve in sports they've stopped enjoying. Reena asks about whether we should push kids to stick with sports they’re not good at, and Dr. Lisa explains the value of playing a sport that doesn’t come naturally. Book recommendation: Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck, PhD Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @Lisa.Damour, @ReenaNinan Check out Dr. Lisa’s website for more resources. https://www.drlisadamour.com/ Ask Lisa is produced by: https://www.goodtroubleproductions.com

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0:00.0	This is Ask Lisa, a podcast to help people understand the psychology of parenting.
0:10.0	Psychologist Dr. Lisa DeMore, author of two New York Times best-selling parenting books, takes your questions.
0:17.0	And I'm co-host, Rina Ninan, a journalist and mom of two.
0:24.2	Some of what we talk about comes from raising children ourselves.
0:28.2	Most of the time, I'll be getting answers to your parenting questions.
0:33.1	So send your questions to Ask Lisa at Dr.Lisademore.com.
0:37.3	Episode 85, my kids lose it when they make a sports mistake. How can I help?
0:42.3	You know, I remember when my son was like in preschool coming down and seeing him watch a YouTube video of Tom Brady when he was in high school.
0:53.1	Tom Brady in high school is not Tom Brady today.
0:56.3	No.
0:57.1	I think people forget.
0:57.9	Actually, I was at Michigan when Tom Brady was playing for Michigan.
1:01.8	I was a grad student.
1:03.3	And he was like, he was not our star.
1:06.9	Isn't that hard to believe?
1:08.1	But I love that.
1:08.7	That's what I love about like people who rise to
1:11.5	great levels like he did. He really wasn't born that way. No, and even in college. I mean,
1:17.0	playing Michigan football is like he was clearly no slouch, but he was not the athlete he's turned out to be.
1:23.0	That's pretty. It just goes to show all the effort that goes into it. You know, sports season has begun
1:28.1	as school season has and it's full on and we got this letter from a parent. It says,
1:33.2	Dear Dr. Lisa Arena, my boys are 8 and 11 and are very into competitive sports. They play on
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