84: Drink Pushers

Take a Break from Drinking

Rachel Hart

Alcohol, Lifecoach, Alcoholicsanonymous, Self-improvement, Hungover, Society & Culture, Smartrecovery, Drinking, Cognitivebehavioraltherapy, Education, Cbt, 12steps, Sobriety, Drunk, Recovery, Personal Journals

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🗓️ 28 August 2018

⏱️ 29 minutes

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Summary

On this episode, we explore why people are drink pushers and why we avoid them and blame them for our own choices around drinking. We also look at what we need to understand about the think-feel-act cycle and how it’s driving the action of pushing other people to drink. Join me to discover how to handle the situations where someone is trying to persuade you to drink to help you feel empowered rather than pressured.

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0:00.0	You are listening to the Take a Break podcast with Rachel Hart episode 84.
0:07.0	Whether you want to drink less or stop drinking, this podcast will help you change the habit from the inside out.
0:14.0	We're challenging conventional wisdom about why people drink and why it can be hard to resist temptation.
0:20.0	No labels, no judgment, just practical tools to take control of your desire and stop worrying about your drinking.
0:28.0	Now here's your host, Rachel Hart.
0:35.0	Welcome back everybody. We're talking about drink pushers today.
0:41.0	People who push you to drink. I'm sure probably all of you have encountered someone like this.
0:49.0	And you know what? I know a lot about this topic. I have a lot of firsthand knowledge because I was one.
0:58.0	I was a drink pusher. I was always pushing people, cajoling people, persuading people to drink with me.
1:08.0	And when I wanted to change the habit, I hated being around people like me.
1:15.0	I hated being around other fellow drink pushers because I didn't know how to handle it.
1:21.0	And I thought that they made me feel terrible about my decision not to drink.
1:25.0	So it was this fascinating thing that for a long time I could see myself because I flip-flopped back and forth for so many years trying to figure out my drinking.
1:35.0	So I was and I wasn't. I wasn't. I wasn't. And I was a drink pusher and then I hated being around them.
1:41.0	And then I'd go back to being a drink pusher and then I hated being around them.
1:44.0	And it's so fascinating now because now, well of course I'm not a drink pusher.
1:51.0	But it's so fascinating now understanding the thing feel like cycle and all these tools that now I can watch people who are and have such a different understanding and such a different perspective on what is happening.
2:07.0	So here's the thing. You may be a drink pusher, maybe you're not. If you are, don't worry.
2:14.0	It's okay. It doesn't mean you're a bad person. It actually is a fantastic opportunity to understand how your own think-fuel-act cycle is working.
2:25.0	And if you're not, that's okay too. But what I want all of you to take away from this is that when you are trying to change the habit,
2:36.0	the worst thing that you can do is encounter a drink pusher, someone like I used to be, and fall into the trap of wanting to hide, wanting to blame, wanting to avoid.
2:53.0	Remember, the work that we are doing here, the work to change the habit in a sustainable way, a long-lasting way, is not the work of isolating.
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