814: How Shaming Undermines Trust and What to Do Instead

Shameless Leadership

Sara Dean

Education, Management, How To, Business, Self-improvement

4.7 • 800 Ratings

🗓️ 16 October 2023

⏱️ 35 minutes

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Summary

Shame is integrated into our society in all sorts of explicit and subtle ways. Sometimes we can see it right away and call it out. Other times, we quietly internalize it, not realizing that it’s undermining our self-worth while building up our protective armor to the point that our truest gifts can no longer shine through. Some of us were raised by parents who used shame as a weapon. Some of us have bosses who use shame as a weapon. Some of us have been taught, mentored, or coached by leaders who use shame as a weapon. When we have models and mentors who use shame as a form of control, power, or manipulation, sometimes we don’t know any better than to do the same thing ourselves once we have the opportunity to yield some control or power over others. In this episode, we will explore how shame does the opposite of what the shamer wants it to do while breaking our spirit in the process; how shame, even subtle shame, destroys the trust and integrity of a relationship; and 5 approaches you can use instead of shame to build healthy relationships while co-creating solutions that strength rather than undermine our bonds with one another. We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: https://shamelessmom.com/sponsor Interested in becoming a sponsor of the Shameless Mom Academy? Email our sales team at [email protected] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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1:18.8	Hello, Shameless moms. Happy Monday. I have had the last two or three weeks. I've lost track.
1:24.8	It's been real hectic. It's been really chaotic. I've had the opportunity to do many amazing things.
1:28.7	And also, you know, when you just haven't had like a regular, a quote-unquote regular week in a while, like I'm looking forward to just being like home Monday through Friday.
1:34.6	So I'm wrapping up kind of this little spurt of three weeks of events and travel. And then I have
1:41.6	a little bit more at the end of the month, especially as I welcome my next retreat group, which I'm so excited about, my final influence and Ignite Retreat
1:48.2	on October 26th and October 27th here in Seattle, which will be really, really fun. But I have a little
1:53.4	downtime between now and then, which is feeling spacious. You know when you're like just craving
1:57.9	that spaciousness? So in the meantime, between now and then,
2:02.0	I'm actually heading out tomorrow morning to go celebrate my mom's 85th birthday. So just a little
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