811 Find Lasting Love with Matthew Hussey

The School of Greatness

Lewis Howes

Mindset, Relationships, Entrepreneurship, Mental Health, Education, Greatness, Fitness, Celebrity, Health, Inspiration, Success, Health & Fitness, Self-improvement, Business, Money, Self Care, Celebrity Interview

4.8 • 22K Ratings

🗓️ 17 June 2019

⏱️ 94 minutes

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Summary

BUILD YOUR CASTLE. Love at first sight is bullshit. A relationship is like a castle. You find a plot of land that has a lot of potential. Then, bit by bit, you build the castle. But it takes work from both of you. One person can’t be laying the bricks while the other is home watching TV. After lots of hard work, you’ll have something unique and ornate that belongs to you. You’ll have a castle. That’s love. On today’s episode of The School of Greatness, I talk about the key to lasting relationships with an international guru of the dating and relationship-coaching scene: Matthew Hussey. Matthew Hussey is a speaker, New York Times Bestselling author, columnist for Cosmopolitan Magazine, and dating expert on ABC’s digital series What To Text Him Back. His corporate clients include Hugo Boss, The Perfume Shop, Virgin Gyms, Procter & Gamble, Bare Escentuals, U.S. legal giant Weil Gotshal & Manges, and global management consultants Accenture. 50,000 women have attended his live events and he has reached over 10 million online. Matthew says that the “activation energy” for starting relationships is lower than ever. This causes ghosting. People are less invested in relationships. But there are ways you can meet people indirectly. So get ready to learn the three things you need to build a great relationship on Episode 811. Some Questions I Ask: Do people even want to have a committed, long term relationship? (19:00) Is a great relationship when you stop thinking about your needs and not expecting anything in return? (21:30) How do we step outside of the emotional feelings in a relationship? (25:00) When do you know you’re ready for a committed, intimate relationship? (47:00) What are the three things you need to have to sustain a relationship? (52:00) In This Episode You Will Learn: About “activation energy” and why things like Tinder make it low (10:00) Why space is important in order to not react emotionally (30:00) About the “castle” metaphor and why you need to build together (38:00) Why the “trash cans” define your relationship more than the highlights (45:00) The four stages of all relationships (1:02:30) The first step you can do to get out of the weeds of singlehood (1:11:30) If you enjoyed this episode, check out the video, show notes, and more at www.lewishowes.com/811 and follow at instagram.com/lewishowes

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0:00.0	This is episode number 811 with New York Times bestselling author Matthew Hussey
0:07.7	Welcome to the School of Greatness. My name is Louis Howe's former pro athlete turned lifestyle entrepreneur in each week
0:15.8	We bring you an inspiring person or message to help you discover how to unlock your inner greatness
0:22.9	Thanks for spending some time with me today now let the class begin
0:30.0	Lowsoo said being deeply loved by someone gives you strength while loving someone deeply
0:39.7	Gives you courage. I am so excited about this interview. I've got my good friend Matthew Hussey on
0:46.3	The last time we did an interview was years ago and it went viral online
0:51.0	The YouTube video the audio everything that this person does just seems to take off because he resonates so deeply
0:59.0	With so many individuals now if you don't know who Matthew Hussey is
1:02.8	He's a masterful speaker a New York Times bestselling author columnist for
1:07.2	Cosmopolitan magazine dating expert on ABC's digital series what to text him back
1:12.5	He's been on the today show probably a hundred something times all over the press
1:16.8	He started out in London as a one-in-one coach for men often focusing on confidence issues that impacted relationships
1:24.4	As a result he created get the guy which focused exclusively on relationships for women helping them to get the man of their dreams
1:33.4	The brand established Hussey as one of the leading experts in the field of human attraction in the UK and the US and now he runs programs across
1:41.9	The world helping thousands of men and women reach their true potential and 50,000 women have attended his alive of men's
1:49.6	And he has reached over 10 million people online
1:53.7	His social media is insanity. It's amazing the wisdom that he gives on his videos on his messaging
2:01.3	Everything he do helps so many women around the world
2:05.3	Understand men better and really understand relationships better and I follow Matthew personally I've been following him for years
2:12.8	From the demands perspective on relationships as well trying to understand just relationships in general
2:19.4	So if you want to learn more how to become masterful in any type of relationship whether it's intimate or
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