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Shameless Leadership

806: Managing Your Expectations vs Your Reality

Shameless Leadership

Sara Dean

Education, Management, How To, Business, Self-improvement

4.7800 Ratings

🗓️ 18 September 2023

⏱️ 36 minutes

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Summary

5 years ago, my husband and I celebrated our 10-year wedding anniversary in New Orleans. It was a ton of fun. It was near the end of that trip that we started talking about, “What will we do for 15 years??” Of course, 15 years felt like decades away at the time. And it kind of was. While 5 years is 5 years no matter how you measure it, the way the world has changed over the last 5 years feels like a lifetime of change at breakneck speed.   5 years ago, we talked about how it would be so fun to celebrate our 15-year anniversary in Napa, with dinner at the French Laundry (a super fancy restaurant we had heard about through our restaurant industry friends.)   This plan seems silly now. Spending that kind of money on a meal when my husband has been unemployed for months. And, even before his layoff, our priorities have shifted and evolved as the world has shifted and evolved.   With so many unknowns, we had decided we would just go out to dinner at a modest local restaurant.   And, it was perfect! It was exactly what we needed on that day. We didn’t need the thing we thought we wanted 5 years ago.   While we once had these lavish expectations for this occasion, our reality called for something else. And that something else was exactly what we needed.   That doesn’t mean that the lavish expectation isn’t still sitting with me. It is. But I have trained myself to let go of expectations because reality has shown up to laugh in my face so many times over the last few years. I know I’m not alone in this. I know most (all?) of you have also experienced this!  So, as we navigate this world of managing our expectations vs. our realities, how do we sit with outcomes? In this episode, I share 6 outcomes I’ve experienced from sitting in reality when my expectations have been stolen, shifted, or flipped upside down. Links mentioned: Join My September Retreat for Women Leaders at Work: Influence & Ignite: Be the Boss Your People Have Been Waiting For: shamelessmom.com/leaders Join my October Retreat for Women Entrepreneurs: Influence & Ignite: Be the CEO and Thought Leader You Were Born to Be: shamelessmom.com/bizretreat We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: https://shamelessmom.com/sponsor Interested in becoming a sponsor of the Shameless Mom Academy? Email our sales team at [email protected] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0

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This is the Shameless Mom Academy, episode 806. Show notes for this episode, including any links mentioned in the episode,

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can be found by going to shamelessmom.com and clicking on episode 806.

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Welcome to the Shameless Mom Academy. I'm your host, Sarah Dean. I'm here to give you and other

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passionate, driven, unapologetic moms, tools, resources,

0:41.2

and a little bit of humor to help you lead more positive, powerful, and purposeful lives every damn day.

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0:54.3

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1:00.7

All right. Let's dive into today's episode.

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Hello, shameless moms. Happy Monday. So we started school. I feel like I've been talking about

1:15.2

the start of school for so many episodes. And the only reason I'm bringing it up is because it's

1:19.1

important to something happening right now on our household. So we started school like two weeks

1:24.3

ago. We had the first week of school was the week before Labor Day. We had school

1:28.4

for two and a half days. And then last week, the week of Labor Day, we had school for four days.

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So this was going to be the week. The week where it was like the whole week, child in school,

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life back to normal, officially fall and officially able to get all the things done on the

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to-do list. And wouldn't you know, that child woke up on Saturday morning with COVID.

1:52.4

And so he's been home all week. And I know I'm not alone. And the reason I know I'm not alone

1:57.1

is because a large percentage of our school is at with COVID, and I know that

2:01.1

that means that a large percentage is of many schools of children who are sick right now.

2:06.0

I was just on social media a little bit earlier today, and another friend who lives, like,

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