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🗓️ 17 January 2021
⏱️ 42 minutes
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A lot of men want to be good guys. But Elliott Katz, author of Being the Strong Man A Woman Wants: Timeless wisdom on being a man, says a lot of what men are doing, thinking it makes them good guys, actually makes women lose respect for them.
To help these men understand why, Elliott and Suzanne discuss the top 5 things men mistakenly do thinking it makes them good guys.
IN THIS EPISODE:
4:00 Many good husbands don't understand why their wives are so frustrated with them
4:40 Elliott's own marriage, subsequent divorce and journey to learn what it means to be a man in a relationship
6:40 Young men look to their fathers for wisdom and guidance
9:00 Men need to learn how to show their share of leadership in their home
10:00 Why always leaving the making plans to her is a mistake
13:20 It’s not natural for women to be in control all the time
14:30 Why it’s a mistake not to offer to pay on the first date
20:00 Why, as a man, saying “whatever you want; you decide” doesn't work
22:00 What men should do when their woman shoots down all of their ideas
29:00 A lot of men think they can’t lead if their wives don’t let them
**29:50 Stand up to your wife when she treats you badly. There is no conversation about this in the culture about this since it’s unpopular and typically the focus is on women being treated badly.
32:40 Men need to let their wives know what kind of treatment they won’t accept and most men are concerned with “keeping the peace." Women do not respect men who don't have a backbone
35:55 Takeaways for men: Take the lead, be a man with a plan, take initiative, show leadership, cast the deciding vote, tell her behavior is unacceptable
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1:59.1 | And now on with the show. Author Elliot Katz was once divorced, and like a lot of people, at first he blamed his former wife. |
2:07.6 | And like a lot of men, he thought he was a good husband. Then he went on a journey to learn what it means to be a man and discovered insights that changed his life. |
2:15.6 | Fortunately for us, Elliot has shared those insights in his book, Being the Strong Man a Woman Once, Timeless Wisdom on Being a Man, which has been translated into 24 languages by publishers in Europe, Asia, Latin America, and Africa. |
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