Welcome back to the place we find ourselves podcast. I'm Adam Young and this is part two of my teaching

About what happens to your nervous system in the midst of relational conflict

By the way, this is episode 80 which means it is the final episode of season four

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Okay, let me begin by summarizing the key takeaways from part one

First your body comes equipped with an exquisite ability called neuroception

Which is the unconscious and automatic detection of threat or danger your nervous system is constantly scanning

Your relational environment for disconnection for conflict for rupture

All of which represents danger as far as your nervous system is concerned

Second when your body scans the relational environment and detects anything that feels remotely threatening

It triggers your nervous system to do one of three things first socially engage that is talk to the other person

Second go into a fight flight freeze reaction or third shut down

And each of those three responses talking to the other person fight flight freeze and shutting down is driven by a different part

Of your nervous system the first response talking to the other person is driven by the ventral portion of your vagus nerve

The second response fight flight freeze

It's driven by your sympathetic nervous system and the third response shutting down is driven by the dorsal portion of your vagus nerve

When things get a little unsafe or there's a small conflict with another person the first thing your body does is socially engage

If through the process of neuroception

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