Welcome to being her, the ultimate guide to living your best life as her. Join me, Margarita,

on an empowering journey to discover your feminine energy, build meaningful relationships and

find your purpose. Let's dive in and explore all things women heard together. On today's episode,

I'm going to be touching on a subject that is near India. By near India, I don't mean I am in

love with this subject. This has been a pain point for me for, I would say my adolescence,

my, and my twenties, it is attachment, attachment theory, secure attachment, anxious attachment,

avoidant attachment. If you're not familiar with those terms, I would suggest getting familiar

because it will change how you see your reactions to your partners, how you see your interactions

with your partners and the world in general. I came from a place of really strong, anxious

attachment, especially and mostly to men. Why did that happen and why does it happen with children

is chapters and chapters and hundreds of theses written on it. But in my case, to give you an

example is I grew up without a father. I moved to a different country at a young age, so I didn't

have those male role models. So when it came to me creating partnerships men essentially,

they were built on very rocky, unstable ground. I did not know how to interact with people without

trying to cling onto them and second guess them and we'll go on to anxious attachment and what

that means for you and how to get through it and how to heal it, but it's a really painful

position to come from. So one might say that attachment usually breaks down to 50% of us are

securely attached, which means we got the love we needed from our parents. Yes, everyone's got

traumas in their life and things go left and things go south a lot, but basically you got your needs met.

The other 50% breaks up into several categories, but I will just call them anxious or avoidant.

There is also ambivalent and all these different categories, but for the sake of this podcast,

I'm going to focus on anxious. So let's just say half of us are secure. That means we trust people,

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