8 Signs That You're Balanced in Relationships

WITH LOVE, DANIELLE

Danielle LaPorte

Self-improvement, Education

4.9 • 697 Ratings

🗓️ 20 December 2023

⏱️ 46 minutes

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Summary

Today is a good one. I’ve been waiting to deliver this for a while and because I think there’s a missing piece in the current cultural conversation around the nervous system which is… the connection between our dysregulation and the quality of our relationships.

A nervous system that’s nourished, regulated and healthy can roll with ALL KINDS OF EXPERIENCES. We can be flexible, spacious, and tolerant. Way less… triggerable and much more… Loving.

When we’re overly stressed, under-resourced, and dysregulated (anyone?) relational symptoms ––in addition to physical symptoms, will start to show up for us.

If you’re agitated and unpleasable… if you want to hard bail on commitments… if you’re emotionally shut down… if you can’t even name what you’re feeling… then… it’s all kinds of messy and unfulfilling.

In Episode 95 of WITH LOVE, DANIELLE, I’m walking us through the 8 signs of dysregulation in relationships, PLUS! 8 signs we’re relating from inner balance:

How to know when you’re off base. In wild times like these, we’re normalizing abnormal conditions.
How getting regulated helps us stop taking everything personally.
How imbalance actually brings us more into balance. All reactivity is an opportunity to see what’s playing out under our hood.
The indicators that we are relating from inner balance, from the heart center… and why Love is the most powerful, immediate regulator of the nervous system.

We heal through relationships. Repeat: all relationships are vehicles for healing.

When we see how our nervous system influences our interactions––family, partners, friends, cultures—then we will take a more urgent and spiritual approach to taking care of ourselves. And THEN we can move from friction to freedom.

Especially with the holidays at hand… please listen in.

We show up, we hold space. We hold hands. And we keep going.

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0:00.0	Hello, my loves. Today is going to be a good one. I've been waiting to deliver this for a while.
0:12.1	We're going to talk about the connection between our relationships and our nervous systems.
0:19.0	More specifically, I'm walking us through eight signs of dysregulation and relationships.
0:25.0	How do you know when you weigh off base when you're imbalanced?
0:29.5	And what are the indicators that we are relating from inner balance,
0:34.5	from a nourished nervous system from the heart center.
0:41.3	I really think that this is a big missing in the cultural conversation around nervous system regulation.
0:51.3	And I'm so glad so many people are looking at the nervous system and the connection
0:55.9	to trauma and all of that needs to happen. There's a reason why it's on so many people's lips.
1:01.3	But I think there's two things that are missing from really moving us more steadily towards
1:07.9	healing. One is the connection between our dysregulatedness, our
1:12.9	dysregulation, and the quality of our relationships. Like, if you are in fight, flight, freeze,
1:18.5	or fawn, you want to escape, you're antagonistic, you're agitated, you want to bail,
1:24.0	you're shut down, you're not aware of how you're feeling, you can't express how
1:27.9	you feel. That's like no good for nobody. Here's the beauty of knowing that. Nervous system
1:35.5	regulation is so doable. Simple steps that have to do with how you calm and ease and nourish your body and your mind and your
1:49.2	spirit and when you do that you are way less triggerable you are calmer you are more receptive
1:56.8	you are more at ease you're more fun to be, you're going to be more attractive in so many
2:02.1	ways.
2:03.8	When things go south, you stay centered.
2:07.5	And as a side note, I think the other absence in this conversation is the connection between
2:14.1	our spiritual life, our soul literacy, and a balanced nervous system.
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