Welcome back to the podcast. My name is Joseph Clough and this is episode 788.

Now today's episode we are talking about ultimately enforcing your boundaries for your emotional happiness.

Now, what do I mean by that?

Here's a sentence I want you to remember. That, if you don't enforce your boundaries,

someone else will. No matter what, where it be society, where it be your neighbor,

where it be your family, your partner, your boss, your co-worker, all of those things,

they will put you in a place and it will cause you to feel pretty bad. Now first of all,

what is a boundary? What is pretty much like a value, right? It's a value that you can

pin yourself in. For example, let's just say it, that's a little error

I'll edit out, but I was expecting that one, so that'll be on the cut. Ultimately, what is

that boundary? Well, it's going to be what you value. The values are for you, values for what is

important to you, and when you think about that and go deeper to it, it's going to be based

around your esteem. You see, if you have low self-esteem, if you're, say, a people-pleaser,

if you feel like you're an imposter, you feel worried or you're

doubtful, you wake up with every day with dread, it will cause you to not act the way that

you want and then other people will see that and then start to make you do more of the same.

You see, people pleasing will cause you to go,

well I've got to do this because I don't want to upset anyone. I don't want to get rejected. I don't want to get hurt.

And then the more you start to people please, let's say at work, you're trying to do all these things so you don't get found out and you don't get rejected and you don't fail.

Now suddenly that's the new benchmark. So originally you've almost set that boundary,

but now other people are enforcing that boundary around you.

So if you don't set clear today, define today what your boundary is going to be.

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