787. Why Being “Good” Is Hurting You: How To Choose Yourself + Be Free

Almost 30

Krista Williams & Lindsey Simcik

Education, Alternative Health, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness

4.6 • 3.9K Ratings

🗓️ 7 August 2025

⏱️ 68 minutes

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In this episode, Lindsey welcomes bestselling author Amber Rae for a soul-baring convo about breaking free from the cages we build for ourselves—yes, even the beautiful ones. Get ready for real talk on self-abandonment, “good girl” programming, and honoring your deepest desires. Ahead, Amber opens up about her journey from a nine-year marriage built on comfort (not chemistry), to a cosmic soulmate encounter that woke up her spirit + shattered everything she knew about love. Plus, hear confessions about new motherhood + breaking generational cycles. Amber reveals why facing discomfort is the key to living your wildest, most liberated life—the one you’ve held secret in your heart for so long. Consider this your permission slip to question your programming, set yourself free, and start healing in every direction—lineage, love, and beyond. We also talk about: -How the “good girl” myth keeps women small -Performing in relationships vs. living your truth -Soul connections: how to trust your intuition when lightning strikes -Why abandoning yourself to please others never works -Healing generational wounds—and how your growth liberates your lineage -Navigating shame, criticism, and judgment in the pursuit of authenticity -Real talk about therapy: calling out performative patterns -Coping with overwhelm as a new mom, writer, and creator -Learning to let go of control—and letting partners (and life) surprise you Resources: -Order Loveable out August 5th -Website: https://www.amberrae.com/ -Instagram: @heyamberrae -Get our book, Almost 30: A Definitive Guide To A Life You Love For The Next Decade and Beyond, here: http://bit.ly/Almost30Book. Sponsors: LMNT | Go to DrinkLMNT.com/ALMOST30 and get a free sample pack with any order. That’s 8 single serving packets FREE with any LMNT order. Ritual | Get 25% off your first month for a limited time at ritual.com/ALMOST30. Chime | Open your account in 2 minutes at chime.com/almost30. IQ Bar | Get 20% off all IQBAR products, plus get FREE shipping. Just text ALMOST to 64000 to get your discount. Ka’Chava | Go to https://kachava.com and use code ALMOST30 for 15% off your next order. To advertise on this podcast please email: ⁠[email protected]⁠. Learn More: -https://almost30.com/about -almost30.com/morningmicrodose -https://almost30.com/book Join our community: -facebook.com/Almost30podcast/groups -instagram.com/almost30podcast -tiktok.com/@almost30podcast -youtube.com/Almost30Podcast Podcast disclaimer can be found by visiting: almost30.com/disclaimer. Find more to love at almost30.com! Almost 30 is edited by Garett Symes and Isabella Vaccaro. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	You guys, it is here, almost 30. The book is now available for purchase. It is a definitive
0:06.9	guide to a life you love for the next decade and beyond. We wrote this because our late 20s
0:13.7	wrecked us. And if we would have known that this was a period of possibility, we would have been
0:19.1	so much better off. We were both
0:21.1	feeling super lost, honestly like questioning everything from our careers to relationships.
0:27.5	And we realized that no one really talks about how intense this time can be. And we wanted to
0:32.2	create the book we wish we had back then, something that really moves people to their most aligned life possible
0:40.5	without all the chaos. So anyone who wants to use these times of change and transformation
0:46.3	as a portal to your highest potential needs to get this book. This is a guide to leveraging
0:52.2	the messy times in your life and turning them into magic.
0:56.7	The book is available anywhere you purchase books in person or online like Amazon and Target,
1:02.6	Barnes & Noble and more. And we also have an incredible audiobook available on Audible.
1:07.0	Thank you so much for getting the Almost 30 book for supporting us and supporting yourself in living a life that you love. We hope you enjoy.
1:37.0	Hi, everybody. Welcome to the Almost 30 podcast. It's Lindsay. I'm going to intro this really special episode with our friend Amber Ray. Thank you for joining us on the Almost 30 podcast. Thanks for
1:42.5	subscribing for sharing with a friend. It means the
1:46.1	world to us. If you love our pod, rating and reviewing is so helpful. But this is really a
1:52.4	community that has grown over the last nine freaking years. It's crazy to think about.
1:59.4	And it's grown from just two girlies on our closet floors, just talking about life at the time, which was kind of a shit show, to be completely honest with you.
2:10.7	And we just wanted to share our stories and in real time learnings.
2:15.3	And it's just grown into this incredible podcast movement community
2:19.1	and now a book that is out now. It's called Almost 30, a Definitive Guide to a Life You Love for
2:25.5	the next decade and beyond. So just shout out to all of you that have made this possible,
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