78: My Daughter’s Nude Selfie Got Out. What Do We Do Now?

Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens

Dr. Lisa Damour/Reena Ninan

Mental Health, Kids & Family, Health & Fitness, Parenting

4.7 • 824 Ratings

🗓️ 26 April 2022

⏱️ 27 minutes

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Summary

A parent writes in asking how to pick up the pieces after her daughter shared a nude selfie with a boyfriend who then sent it to other boys at school. Dr. Lisa and Reena talk about how impulsive moments can lead to serious consequences, what can be done to make things right, and the legal implications of sharing nude photos. The episode also addresses what to say to kids about requesting, sending, or unexpectedly receiving nude photos, and the simple--but often overlooked--change to school policy that can make a big difference. Dr. Lisa’s Resources The New York Times, 1/2/18; Teenagers, Stop Asking for Nude Photos; By Dr. Lisa Damour Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @LDamour, @ReenaNinan Additional resources: https://www.drlisadamour.com/ Ask Lisa is produced by: Www.GoodTroubleProductions.com See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

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0:00.0	This is Ask Lisa, a podcast to help people understand the psychology of parenting.
0:10.6	Psychologist Dr. Lisa DeMore, author of two New York Times best-selling parenting books, takes
0:15.9	your questions.
0:17.3	And I'm co-host, Rina Ninan, a journalist and mom of two.
0:21.3	Some of what we talk about comes from raising children ourselves.
0:24.9	Most of the time, I'll be getting answers to your parenting questions.
0:28.8	So send your questions to Ask Lisa at Dr.Lisademore.com.
0:34.0	Episode 78, my daughter's nude selfie got out.
0:38.4	What do we do now?
0:50.2	You know, I'm still struggling with the cell phone issue because fifth grade graduation is coming around the corner and lots of kids end up getting the cell phone.
0:56.1	I am not giving in, Lisa. I'm not giving it. Standing firm. Stick to your guns, Rina. Stick to your guns. And, you know, there's options beyond cell phones. There's a few different
1:02.4	devices that are really good-looking phones that text and do all sorts of things, but they do not
1:10.4	get kids onto the internet.
1:12.3	That's good to know. Apparently, my son says that makes you a pariah. So, very uncool.
1:17.9	But I'm standing to it. I say, Dr. Lisa tells us, not time yet, not time.
1:24.8	Until you can't get together with your friends. Well, then we'll have that conversation. That's a great. That's a great point. But, you know, there are things that you just can't get together with your friends. Then we'll have that conversation.
1:28.2	That's a great.
1:28.9	That's a great point.
1:29.6	But, you know, there are things that you just can't control no matter how many conversations you have.
1:34.2	And we got this note asking for some help here.
1:37.5	Dear Dr. Lisa, my daughter texted a naked photo of herself to her boyfriend.
1:42.1	He then shared the photo with his guy friends. My daughter is
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