78: How to Control Worry, with Bonni Stachowiak
Coaching for Leaders
Dave Stachowiak
4.8 • 1.6K Ratings
🗓️ 4 March 2013
⏱️ 29 minutes
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Summary
Bonni Stachowiak: Teaching in Higher Ed
Bonni is the host of the Teaching in Higher Ed podcast, Dean of Teaching and Learning and Professor of Business and Management at Vanguard University, and my life partner. Prior to her academic career, she was a human resources consultant and executive officer for a publicly traded company. Bonni is the author of The Productive Online and Offline Professor: A Practical Guide*.
Towards the end of his life, Mark Twain famously said, “I’m an old man and I’ve known many troubles, most of which never happened.” Like Twain, many of us find ourselves captivated by worry on a regular basis. In this episode, we’ll take a look at this human reality and some of the things that each of us can do to better control worry, both professional and personally.
- Make a decision that it’s OK to worry once in awhile
- Take Dale Carnegie’s advice of “What’s the worst that can happen?”
- Get out of your own box and focus on serving others rather than worrying about ourselves
- Address challenges proactively – when there is trouble, take action!
- Live in day-tight compartments
Some of the books we mentioned on this episode are:
- How to Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie
- Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers
- Getting Things Done by David Allen
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| 0:00.0 | Mark Twain famously said I am an old man and I have known many troubles most of which |
| 0:07.0 | Never happened on today's episode. We're going to be looking at worry and what we can do to control it. This is Coaching for Leaders episode |
| 0:15.2 | number 78. Produced by Innovate Learning Maximizing Human Potential. human potential. Greetings from Orange County, California. |
| 0:27.0 | This is coaching for leaders and I'm your host Dave Stahoviac. This is a weekly show to help smart people improve their communication |
| 0:37.1 | and leadership skills. And this week we're going to be looking at how to control worry. |
| 0:43.0 | And you might wonder, well, what does that have to do with communication and leadership skills? |
| 0:46.5 | Well, it has a whole lot to do with it because as leaders, if we're not controlling our worry, we're not going to be good communicators, we're not going to be leading others and |
| 0:56.3 | we're certainly not going to lead ourselves very well. |
| 0:58.5 | And so I have invited in my favorite guest, Bonnie Stoviac, who's back, hooray! |
| 1:03.0 | Hello, I'm glad to be back and glad to be talking about this important topic. |
| 1:07.0 | I'm glad you are back too because we have a whole bunch of guests coming in the next few weeks, |
| 1:10.0 | and so I'm glad I was able to have you back before we have all of our guests |
| 1:14.2 | coming in and and are you an expert on this topic? I am very good at worrying. |
| 1:21.3 | I am excellent at it. We both have one probably have qualified if there was an Olympic event |
| 1:26.4 | on warring. We both probably have qualified it for at one point or another in the past and so this is something I think a lot of us struggle with. |
| 1:36.0 | I love the quote that you used and I mean in all seriousness I think that worry can certainly |
| 1:40.8 | be debilitating in people's lives and I have rarely had it be so for me. |
| 1:45.2 | But the times when I have, you know, you think about that Mark Twain quote and the worries. |
| 1:49.2 | One of the things that came up immediately when we started talking about this was in my mid 20s I had the |
| 1:55.8 | opportunity to buy a home and I was an executive at that time and making good money |
| 2:00.5 | and single but it seemed so much like that wasn't supposed to happen you |
| 2:04.6 | were supposed to be married before you bought a house and so I had a lot of |
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