Happy New Year and welcome to a new season, if you will, of Ask Paul Tripp.

My name is Ben Fowell, the executive director of Paul Trip Ministries, and we're back in 2025

this new year with new answers from Paul. Last year, we released our first 50 episodes,

but Paul spends a lot of time in the autumn and winter with his adult children and grandchildren, so he took a few months off from recording. But Lord willing,

will be consistent uploading new answers for you every Thursday and Saturday, where Paul

provides helpful, practical, gospel-centered answers to your questions about everyday life.

Paul, today's question comes from Michelle. She asks, how do you love a husband who is a

believer but prideful and unteachable? I want to get counseling for our marriage, but he thinks

we're fine and refuses. So if both husband and wife are believers in Christ, but there's significant

stubbornness from one party, how would you deal with that? So it's very hard when you're living with as a believer, with a believer, but your marriage

isn't what God should be. There is sin and conflict in your marriage that's not being dealt

with, and you want to get help, and the other person doesn't want to get help.

The first thing I'm going to say about that is don't allow yourself as the years go on to question

the wisdom and the goodness and the faithfulness of God.

Because if you allow yourself to be envious of other couples,

to think that God has given you a bad deal, that somehow you are not as important to him as other

people, when you begin to question God's goodness, what's devastating about that is you don't go to him for help.

I've just counseled husband or a wife who in the midst of that kind of marriage had become bitter and cynical.

I had one person say to me, I can't read my Bible anymore, I can't pray anymore.

That's because you don't trust God anymore.

And that's a very, very bad place to be because then you don't go for him for the help that only

he can live.

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