716 Disordered Boundaries + High-Functioning Codependency: What You Need to Know

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Terri Cole

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🗓️ 13 May 2025

⏱️ 22 minutes

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Summary

Do you struggle with setting boundaries because it feels selfish or wrong to put your preferences or needs first?

Do you inadvertently trample on other people’s boundaries? (Hyper-helping, auto-advice giving, etc.)

Or are you a newly identified high-functioning codependent (HFC) wondering why it’s especially tough to set boundaries?

Then you’re in the right place. In this episode, I am breaking down why it’s challenging to set, stick to, and respect other people’s boundaries, particularly as HFCs.

This is part one, and in part two (coming next week), we’ll cover boundary scripts and the different types of boundaries you might want to consider setting.

Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/716

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0:00.0	Well, hello there. And welcome to this episode of the Terry Cole show. Oh my gosh, you guys, so many
0:07.4	exciting things have been happening lately. And I'm just so grateful and I'm so grateful for you
0:11.8	for being here, for all the grueviness. Many of you know I did a double appearance, double
0:19.3	episode on We Can Do Hard Things with Amanda, Abby, and Glennon.
0:25.7	And it was so much fun.
0:28.2	And we've gained so many new followers from that.
0:31.0	It's such a visible pod.
0:33.0	But it was just so wonderful to get the high functioning codependent stuff out into the world. And I'm so
0:38.8	enthused by the number of people who I've been hearing from who feel seen, who are like,
0:45.9	God, I didn't know what the hell was wrong with me. Not like something's wrong with you, but you know
0:50.0	what I mean. And just knowing that there's a way to heal and that there's a way to get better and that
0:55.6	there's so much more for us in life than being on that autopilot. Anyway, I'm just feeling
1:01.1	grateful. And we just made 250,000 followers on Instagram. So that's a quarter of a million people.
1:06.3	That's a lot of people. And you guys are here. And many of you here listening to this pod are my OGs because
1:13.5	this pod is turning 10 in September, which I also cannot believe how time flies when you're yakkin
1:19.6	apparently. Anyway, I just want to say thank you. I appreciate you. And in today's episode,
1:24.5	let me get to that. What am I talking about? I'm talking about boundaries and HFC.
1:30.6	Because I'm getting a lot of new questions, because I've got so many new people in my world,
1:35.8	about why is it so hard with boundaries, right, when we're so capable in other ways.
1:40.3	So I'm doing a two-part series.
1:42.1	This is part one about high-functioning codependency and
1:47.1	boundaries. And just gratitude for your presence in my life and in my platform and how active
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