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Seven things you should never tell your spouse, how to shut your mouth. You also are going to learn today about five things you should speak to your spouse regularly. See, your words

are powerful and they could either build your marriage

or destroy your marriage. And so if you stick around till the end, not only you learn seven

things not to say, but five things you should say that will bless your marriage. Let's dive in.

The first one is you always, you never. This phrase you must remove from your vocabulary, you always, you never.

This phrase you must remove from your vocabulary, you always, you never.

These are absolute statements, they trigger defensiveness and resentment.

The truth is nobody is always and never except God.

God is always with us, he never leaves us.

We as human beings, these words always and never

don't really apply to us. See, Proverbs 151 says, a gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word

stirs up anger. This harsh word, that's an exaggeration, you always, you never, at the moment of our emotional outburst

actually stirs up more anger. So instead, you would want to say things like, I feel like this is

happening often. See, words I feel add a little bit of room that your feelings are speaking even if there is a lot of facts

or things like it seems like this has been frequent lately when you begin to introduce that

you're toning down the vastness of your argument into something more measurable and something

more factual and it actually invites a

dialogue instead of defensiveness. The second thing you should not say is I wish you were

more like fill in the blank. Comparison kills intimacy. When you compare your spouse

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